Ok am not usually one of them poops who bear the soul on the internet but since its becoming normal for people to pour out their troubles I figured I can share mine too..
Anyway I'm in a bit of a pickle so here goes..
Four months ago I met a lovely guy who is TDH (tall dark and handsome), absolute gentleman who is so sweet, passionate, loving and you know all the good stuff. He's got the whole package, lovely broad chest works out, has a five pack chest and well the goods down town are fabulous
A week later I met another guy, who has the same characteristics as the first guy.. he just has brown hair and a bit longer than the first guy.
They both make me laugh and we always have a good time and life just seems like heaven when I'm with either of them.
They both know about each other as I did not want to have any secrets so I spilled the beans and made it known. They've never met each other so it's all good until....
They both want a serious relationship and they both want me to move in with them..
Now both these guys are solid gems.. you know the prince charming we ladies always want and now I have two of them!
The only difference between these two guys is the issue of finance. The first guy is a rich guy, owns several businesses (construction and real estate business) and his annual net salary is over $1 million a year and he has it all. He's never been married, has no kids so he's looking to settle down.
Second guy is not as rich as the first guy.. he's a sales manager who just got laid off his job as his company closed down so presently he is unemployed but looking for work and has a daughter from a previous relationship.
Now financially, I don't need a man as I run my own hair salon and I work as a part time financial consultant and I got my own mortgage free house, two cars and I pretty much look after myself so money has nothing to do with how I feel about these two guys.
I like them both and I wish I could have them both but ultimately I have to choose one as they have both proposed that they want to take things to the next level.
What do I do? if you were in my shoes? who would you pick and why?
from a male perspective... I'm a widower so if it was me in the situation with ladies as such I would go for the money..
But I would advise you that the guy with the bucks has earned them by long hours and hard work that are probably ingrained habits. It's not that he'll love you less but you have to know the biz is the biz, being independent yourself you may have a greater understanding of the sacrifices it takes to get so far.
If you value companionship more, go with the poor man...
♥♥♥ Since you are not sure, "Ménage à trois" sounds good in your situation because you like both of them & love neither one. If you can handle French style then it is ok, I am just kidding. If you think both of them sound, too good then choose the rich guy. If that doesn't work, forget about both of them because you are sooooooo beautiful & I am always available...hahaha. Don't think too much. I wish you good luck ♥♥♥
I think I would rather stay single... you have it all, so why don't you just say that you want to keep it the way it is for the time being. Let em both stew for a bit and see what happens. A solution will come into being sooner or later.
Or do you want to settle down and have kids? What's the hurry?
OO I like that 'let them stew for a bit' Yep I agree. Like I said focus on YOU and other factors will fall into place Mamelody...Shaz has good sound advice too
well neither one of them sounds interesting to me, but that's all right. i would hold off and date both of them and then choose the one who you feel happy with. only one person can make you feel that certain way. money and position have nothing to do with love.
I think you should let the one who lost his job move in. Living with someone tells all. Plus it will show how responsible he is , in regards to getting another job.
I don't know, "annoyed" seems to be an awfully mild term to describe your feelings about being in love with two men at the same time. Are you sure you truly love either of them?
I'm only saying this because I'm assuming since you posted your dilemma on an internet forum you were wanting honest feedback.
It sounds to me like you really don't know them all that well yet. Everyone jumps too fast today. You don't know anyone well until after a year, and even then you'll find things out you did not.
Since your already well off the only thing you should be basing your decision on is how you feel about them. You must like one just a little bit more than the other.
Also, what about them? Does one seem to be in love with you more than the other? Will the well off guy get bored with you after a while since he can have whoever he wants?
I'd date them both a while more until you can really say for sure you want to be with one over the other. Regrets of lost loves suck big time!
well they both have strong feelings for me but your right, and my instinct gut tells me not to rush into anything. I'd make a shitty girlfriend anyway lol
I'm sure you make a great girlfriend, after all you have two hot guys that want you! But taking it slow is always the best when your undecided.
Having said that, I myself can't bear to date a girl who is also seeing someone else. I'm an all or nothing type, I only date one girl at a time and I expect the same back.
So I feel the guys pain of wanting to only date you only. But see if you can go a bit longer to give yourself more time. Maybe tell them both you want to see them for a month more, than you'll make your decision.
It's getting confusing to try to keep track of all these threaded post! What do you have against Disney? Don't you love the happiest place in the world!?
Actually the only reason I mention Disney is because I live in Orlando, right next to it. Plus I have a tourist website about Disney, see? NOW you know why.
I was going to suggest you marry the rich guy, then after a bit, divorce him and take him for everything!! (just joking guys!) But it sounds as if you are not ready for committment with either of them. Don't rush into anything when you aren't sure. Take you time, chill out. You will know when it feels right.
Who did you meet second? I think that's the one you should go with because the man you met first was obviously lacking if you picked up another guy. I think that would be the best decision for YOU.
But you also have to consider the feelings of the two men. BOTH want you to move in with them, which is a sign of commitment, and, from my experience, is a very hard step to take for a man. If a man wants to make a commitment to you, that means his feelings for you are very strong.
So, here is my advice: Take a break from both of them. See which one you miss the most or if you even miss them at all. Taking a break will give you a chance to clear your head.
Don't choose one just for the sake of having a boyfriend though. And don't keep stringing them along either. Men, although they often don't EXPRESS emotions, still HAVE emotions and they run just as deeply as a woman's.
That's Walt Disney World! Disneyland is in Ca. I actually use to work at Disney for two years. One of my bosses went to jail there for holding bdsm orgies in a warehouse there, true story. Lots of perverts under those costumes!!
I have been reading some of the comments you have been getting to your question and from what I can tell you have been given quite a variety of suggestions to your questions. My advise is to get to know both of these men for who they are inside, not for the amount of money or assets they have or have not. It is what a person is made up of inside them that counts, not they monetary values. If you decided just say to go for the good looking one and he turns out to be a real rat, then you will wish that you had known him better before you got too involved with him. You might have to wait a while before you are sure, but wouldn't it be better to know what each of them have to offer in themselves, you just might be surprised what you find in the end. Good Luck with your endeavours. Beautybabe.
I'm sorry people, rich guy was on the phone and said to go out to candle light dinner by the riverside and poor guy showed up with flowers and chocolates on my door step...
take the flowers and chocolates on the way to dinner... problem solved! Of course be open and honest about your intentions... get em in a fluster whilst you sit back and ... err... enjoy!
Hey.. you may as well cos in the end, you just might have years of washing skiddy boxer shorts! lol x
I hate to berak it to you Mamelody but no matter how many ppl respond to give you advice about the two...YOU are going to have to be the one who chooses between the two. it is all up to you not anyone else. Asking for advice was a good route to take but in the end, the only advice you can take from all of this is your own advice. you have to step back from the situtation and think it through on your own. If I were you, I would get off hubpages, close my eyes, and just think...or make a pros con list between the two. Take a break and really be serious about YOU and if either is still waiting that is theo ne for you. But again it is up to you, not us who you choose and you have to make that decision on your own.
If you don't know which one you should hang on to and if you're letting money decide, I'm not sure you really care for either one very much. It doesn't sound like love at all to me -- especially since you're asking advice from strangers on the internet.
It seems obvious that you shouldn't move in with anyone until you figure out if you love either one of them.
Besides, dating two people at the same time is common. As long as you're not lying to either one about dating someone else, why not continue dating both and forget about moving in with one of them at this time?
I only said that was the only difference btwn the two blokes.. I also said I don't need a man financially so obviously I would not base my decision on money factor!
You learn so very much about a person when stress hits. SO MUCH. Expectations about what should happen, the give and take, and so much more always are significant factors. Do you know them well enough to know their expectations? I don't jump into things until I know how the person will respond in a variety of situations. That takes time. Money can be an issue with most. So can ex lovers, children from past relationships, and then the really big surprises like substance abuse, money schemes and fraud, etc.
If at this point you like them both equally, it's only a matter of time before you'll gravitate toward one more than they other. (At least in my experience....)
Not knowing which one is right for you right now only means that it will take more time to get all the info you need about them both. If it were me, I would just enjoy the time you have with them both. If one can't handle that, then obviously that would be an indicator to consider.
Mame: Is that a current pic of you? If it is, you are a hot looking fem! If your body matches your face, you are even "hotter." What are ya thinking? You are young! Play girl! PLAY! You've got plenty of time left to get serious. "Sack" em both. Enjoy 'em! When you are ready to make a decision, it'll come to ya'. In the meantime, use 'em for your and their enjoyment! Bring and continue to bring joy into the world!...:-)
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