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How long does it take for a girl to be ready to go out after she's had a breakup

  1. mastergreen profile image79
    mastergreenposted 2 years ago

    How long does it take for a girl to be ready to go out after she's had a breakup?

    Hi,
    These things can be quite confusing. So will somebody who knows what they are talking about give a response. How long does it take for a girl to be ready to go out after she's had a breakup?

  2. Stina Caxe profile image86
    Stina Caxeposted 2 years ago

    It's confusing because there is no set time.  Some girls want to go out that same day.  But sometimes it takes a lot longer because you want your heart to fully heal and then perhaps you are afraid to chance letting it break again. 
    My advice is, if you want to ask someone out then do it.  Don't wait.  If she says no then move on.  Don't put your life on hold for someone who isn't ready to move forward with theirs.

    1. mastergreen profile image79
      mastergreenposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you very much for your answer.

  3. cperuzzi profile image98
    cperuzziposted 2 years ago

    That is a great question and it obviously varies from case to case.

    But that isn't the really important point OR, more specifically, the question should be "Should you be the first man to date a woman after a breakup?"  Because you really, REALLY, don't want to be that guy. You don't want to be "rebound man" to the woman who seriously has way too much baggage and is looking to make a point with herself.  And you certainly don't want to have a relationship with that person at that time.

    So, the question is when is it safe to date a woman after a breakup.  Gage it by the amount of time in her previous relationship and how it ended.  If it was a long, bad, relationship - it's got a radioactive half life twelve days for every year it lasted and tack on another week if her best friend mentions that she still talks about her ex (in either good terms or bad).

    It also depends on what kind of man you are?  If you are not looking for a commitment and someone just to take to dinner and a movie - provided that it's harmless enough, you can test the water a bit.  If you want to go onto "whatnot" (and heavy on the whatnot) wade into the water carefully.  The last thing you need is a psychotic woman crying in your apartment all to the tune of "WHY DOESN'T HE LOVE ME ANYMORE?!!!"  You can picture the leaking mascara along with the "Joker" like mask in runny makeup attached to an emotionally unstable woman.

    You really don't want that.

    Give her space, if you know the woman.  Tread carefully.  Be respectful.  And leave the hanky panky for after she's gotten over her last ex.

    1. mastergreen profile image79
      mastergreenposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you very much for your response.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago

    It comes down to who initiated the breakup and for what reasons.
    Naturally if she wanted out of the relationship she may have mentally and emotionally checked out long before they broke up.
    In that scenario she may be ready to date new people fairly soon.
    On the other hand if she was "in love" and completely blindsided when her boyfriend "dumped her" it may be quite a while before she is ready to put herself in that potential position again.
    Nevertheless there are some people who believe the best way to get over one person is to get under another one.
    They simply jump right out there dating much like someone who turns to drugs or alcohol to ease their pain. They want to be distracted!
    The long and the short of it is it depends on the woman and how the last the relationship ended.  There is no set rule of thumb for "moving on". The first steps are acceptance and letting go.

    1. mastergreen profile image79
      mastergreenposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you very much for your comment.

 
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