I found nude pictures of some other female on my ex's phone. Is that considered

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   Cindy562posted 14 years ago

   I found nude pictures of some other female on my ex's phone. Is that considered cheating?
   
   He's the father of my child, God knows what else he's done. I dont know if he has met with her or not. I found out about this May 21st I haven't talked to him since. Should I make this a big deal?

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   lilmami10984posted 14 years ago

   Well he's your ex right? So did you find the pictures after you two were no longer together? If they were already in there during your relationship then I would definitely consider it a betrayal. Not necessarily cheating cause you don't know if anything happened between them but just the fact that they were in there makes you wonder.

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   dabeanerposted 14 years ago

   What are you doing snooping around on your ex's phone?  No wonder he is your ex.

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   JulianaCposted 14 years ago

   Yes!  cheating is not just having sex...if he was having sexually explicit conversations with other women online ,but didnt actually have sex with them ,you would still consider it cheating.. wouldnt you?
   Now why would a comitted man want to have a nude picture of some other woman on his phone?...He might not be shagging her but the desire is there...
   Now most men (even comitted ones) have fantasies about other women...although they dont always act on them, it just all stays in their head....BUT he has a picture, and how would he get this picture? he would have had to have talked to the woman somehow...and if he claimed he was innocent and was just having a conversation...You dont say :"Hi, who is this ?" and receive a NAKED picture...
   
   i could go on and on...But YES i would consider it cheating..

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   ftch911posted 14 years ago

   It would be ridiculous not to make a big deal out of it. Yet, why were you looking on his phone? Do you still have feelings for him? As long as the images are not available in viewing sight for your child; I suppose it would be his business and no longer yours.

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   jasper420posted 14 years ago

   That depends on what you consider cheating

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   MickSposted 14 years ago

   by your own admission, he's your ex, why were you snooping at the contents of his phone, prying into his private life, you're no longer the centre of his universe.
   Is it your idea that men looking at other women is cheating, but women looking at other men isn't cheating?  Women do exactly the same thing, eye up the opposite sex.  A good few years ago I queued for, five hours to get Barry Manilow tickets, my wife was a big fan.  We went, and it was a good show, despite the hundreds of screaming, middle-aged, married women, I suppose they weren't cheating.
   The nude woman on his phone is no more significant than a copy of Playboy, and none of your business anyway, he's your ex, remember.

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   Emissionguyposted 14 years ago

   if he is your "ex" why would it matter. One of my favorite quotes is:
   
   "Once you have seen one woman naked, you want to see all the rest too".
   
   --Ron White

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   Cindy562posted 14 years ago

   For all those who are asking why was I going through his phone if he was my ex? Well not at the time he wasnt my ex I was actually trying to work things out with "the father of my child".
   
   When this incident occured he was in the process of getting arrested. We where arguing and he was acting violent with me, someone called the cops on him and thats how I ended up with his belongings. When the officer was telling me to take his phone he quickly said "no not my phone.." why not? Thats where I was curious to know why didn't he want me to take his phone. I wasn't going to stay with this doubt I had to know the reason why he answered with such hurry. Was he hiding something he didnt want me to find?
   
   Do you all get it know?
   
   Yes I went through his things and what made no sense to me was why did he have the same pictures repeating themselves (wich where the ones of his daughter and I) but yet he had a storage of 200 pictures and not counting the ones he had saved on his sim card.
   
   Ladies, lets be honest wouldnt that get you curious?
   
   So i looked through all his pictures and towards the end to my surprise I find nudes pictures of the same female. Is this why he didnt want me to take his phone in the first place? And not to mention I let him see his daughter without asking him for anything, I let him manipulate me, I actually cared for him, I changed my ways for him..EVERYTHING. And he pays me with this? Not fair. God knows how long he's had those pictures.

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    Morsi 69posted 14 years ago

    no it's not ... i know that's something bad and not good at all , inwhich this pic can be watched by ur chid by Accident .
    
    but maybe he is addicated to porno pic ... that's why he has naked pic at his mobile
    
    but if these pic is for real womans , so you are 100 % right

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    Springboardposted 14 years ago

    Men will always have naked pictures of other women somewhere. Even deeply committed married ones. Women are amazingly beautiful creatures. The female body is absolutely great to look at in all its forms.
    
    The question is not about the picture. But how it got on his phone. If a male friend sent it to him, which is highly plausible, then it is nothing. If he physically took the picture, then the situation may be suspect.
    
    One note here, though, is that once trust is broken it can usually never be gotten back. Trust is like the foundation of your house. You have to have it or the house falls down. If you don't have that trust, it's over.

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