Why is it so easy for people to judge others and so hard for them to love others??
just a thot, would love to hear from others...
Sometimes judging people makes them feel better about themselves, but loving someone might make them look weak if the person doesn't love them back. Just what I have experienced with some people I have met previously.
its so easy for people to judge because they themselves have issues as well as skeletons in their closets that they don't want to acknowledge or deal with. So they seek out others to judge and talk about as a way of "dealing". 9 times out of ten these same people don't love themselves so it will be next to impossible to really love others or anyone. So sad and dysfunctional.
It takes a lot more effort to love someone. Judging someone is easy for those who are constantly looking for something wrong. Just like it's easier to point the finger at someone else than to point at ourselves.
In life everything that is good/healthy/sound/loving/honest/etc. takes a lot more effort to experience which is very rewarding in the long run.
Everything that is evil/confusing/prejudging/hateful/etc. is easier and to gain and takes much less effort to experience than loving others.
Whatever we believe in, we bring life to it, in our very own lives, GOOD or bad. It's true.
I think it is a principle set in human nature. It's easy to judge others because there is no fault with ourselves with the matter. Judging is wrong and that's why it's so easy to do. Showing love is so hard sadly because it is viewed upon as being weak. Yet, if we all just showed love to one another, life would be filled with less violence and abuse. In actuality, judging and hating is the sign of true weakness. Showing love is the true sign of courage and strength.
Judging people is easier and it doesn't have any emotional quotient attached ! When you love someone, you tend to be emotionally attached to them and that makes you vulnerable to tension or anxiety as you care for them.
Love is a personal, intimate decision. We don't normally love strangers, nor do we have the emotional capacity to love a lot of people. (Dunbar's number puts the human social network at 150.)
Judging others is not immoral or hate. Saying murder is wrong and locking up or executing a murderer doesn't have to involve hate - it involves preventing that murderer from killing anyone else. Saying cheating on your spouse is wrong is respect for the faithful one being cheated on. Saying childbearing outside of marriage is wrong is a reflection of real world statistics - children born to unwed mothers are three times as likely to become mentally ill, addicts, homeless, held back in school, arrested. Parents just living together break up 80% of the time before the kid is 10, married parents are together 80% of the time until kids are grown. If you want to help children, you don't endorse family creation where they have three times greater odds of failing - and WAY greater odds of growing up in poverty.
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