What makes some people think that they have the right to judge another person?

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   dndswordsmithposted 12 years ago

   What makes some people think that they have the right to judge another person?
   
   Could they have a "god" complex?
   
   

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   peeplesposted 12 years ago

   Religion and ego! People use the bible to justify their ways by saying things like "hate the sin not the sinner" but then acting in hateful ways toward the person they disagree with. Women, black people, gays, and the list will continue. Now ego from those that have once been judged causes attacks toward white men. Everyone judges the opposite yet cries foul when it's them that's being judged. It can not be stopped. No matter if it's a fat child, a person with a mental handicapp, a person of color, a woman at a construction site, a woman wearing a low cut shirt, a wallstreet banker, we all do it!

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      dndswordsmithposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I see your point being religion and ego. Judgement can come out of those concepts. Nobody likes to be judged negatively and it can cause hatred. Your right

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   cardoctor2posted 12 years ago

   WHY DO YOU ASK? Knowing that detail will provide fitting reasons. Age and social status may reflect why in an answer. People have the right to an opinion made from prejudice as well as fact. All have that right. As for condeming another in a judgemental way, that is also a right. Slander is illegal. Up the ladder a bit, policemen are given the right to judge and make arrest with a final disposition by a judge. Nations make judgement calls and start wars. If we  are indiviually accused by a friend parent, teacher, or boss, we may be acting out of the norm, and this is the alarm to tell you of that danger. God is the fairest and best judge of all. Always listen to His advice - or He may judge you negatively. So, why do you ask? Is it because you want to do what you want, that may have consequenses that may affect others?

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      dndswordsmithposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Why do I ask? I have somewhat of a limited exposure to a broader scope of opinions from people who are not in my circle. I enjoy gaining knowledge from others "its what makes the world go round." Your right "God is the fairest and best judge of all."

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   Starmom41posted 12 years ago

   I'll probably get hissed and booed at over this, but:
   Google gives the first definition, verb, as "to form an opinion or conclusion about"
   
   Now, when someone uses the word without any specifics of what they're talking about, as if the entire concept is out of line, it's very negative--  such as expecting people to accept things that are unacceptable. 
   I'll go further to say I believe "judging" is wrong when it's about who or what a person is--  but not wrong when it's about what a person does, such as behavior that can harm someone. 
   To say otherwise is to say a person should have no opinion on anything whatsoever.

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      dndswordsmithposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Okay, going off of the definition used, I understand. Your view makes sense having categorized judgement as an opinion. Thank you for your answer

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      Starmom41posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I think general confusion (re: both definitions & people vs. behavior) is why the topic has become such a messy issue these days.

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   Attikosposted 12 years ago

   All of us make judgments about other people, all the time. We couldn't get through our days without a thousand of them.
   
   We all prefer the company of friends to that of enemies. That's a judgment.
   
   If a hostile-looking person approaches you on a dark street with a knife in his hand, you tend to get ready to run or fight. That, too, is a judgment.
   
   If one considers people who make judgments about others to be assuming a right they don't have, he is placing them into a particular category. Doing so is a judgment as well. It is impossible to judge judgers without being one.

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      dndswordsmithposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Got ya! We are all judgemental then. I may have to stop being so hard on myself Good way of looking at it.

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      Starmom41posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      @attikos: could u possibly reword the last paragraph in your post here?  I don't really understand what you're saying.

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      Attikosposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Sure. I said you can't criticize others for having arrogated a presumed right to judge without being judgmental yourself.

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      Starmom41posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      o.k., thanks for clarifying!!

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      Express10posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I totally agree with you & especially when it comes to being aware of your surroundings. Quite often, people can avoid harassment, assaults, and even death by properly judging the movements of and body language of those around them.

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   JThomp42posted 12 years ago

   We are not to judge others. It is not our place. We have enough faults of our own to correct instead of pointing out others. The main reason people judge is because they have something lacking in their own lives. Therefore, For some reason it makes them feel better to judge others instead of fixing themselves. Just an opinion.

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      peeplesposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Are you saying you never judge anyone?

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      JThomp42posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Peeples, I honestly try not too. I suppose opinions can seem like judging at times. As far as saying bad things about people, Or how they are dressed, etc. No I don't. It's not my place peeples. 

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      dndswordsmithposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That's interesting, I agree that its not our place to judge others. When I do find myself judging others I immediately ask God for forgiveness and humble my thoughts. We can only do our best at trying not to be judgemental and it's not easy

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      JThomp42posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I totally agree dndswordsmith. Great question by the way.

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      Starmom41posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      @JT:  would u say there is or isn't a difference between "judging" & the term "discernment" as often used by Christians?

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      JThomp42posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Starmom there is no difference. Discernment is still judging which is wrong. 
      
      Discernment: the faculty of discerning;  discrimination; acuteness of judgment and understanding.

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      Attikosposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      How can acuity in judgment and understanding be wrong? The world would be a better place were everyone to have it.

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      Starmom41posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Think of a behavior u consider wrong/sinful/etc. If someone who had that way of life became ur neighbor, coworker, etc., would u feel obligated to take them on as a close friend because they accuse u of being 'judgmental' if u do not?

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      JThomp42posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Of course I would befriend them. Unless they call me judgmental for no reason? Then I would just distance myself from them to prevent further verbal abuse.

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   Mazzy Boleroposted 12 years ago

   I don't think there is anyone on earth who doesn't make a judgment about others at one time or another.  Unless we are psychopathic, we have an emotional empathy with the suffering of others. We don't empathize with the one doing the harm. We all have moral values, too.  If I hear of someone abusing children or old people or being deliberately cruel to animals, I do judge them.  I find it difficult to think "oh, well, they might have mental problems, or a difficult childhood, or brain damage, or maybe they're a drug addict..." I'm going to judge them on what they do. I don't care if they're drug addicts, that's not an excuse for beating a 90 year old woman almost to death as one did in Britain recently. Sorry if that's not politically correct.  I don't have a god complex - and it doesn't make me feel better to judge others. I would judge myself, too, if I did those things.

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      Starmom41posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      U have on-target POV!  not meaning to be pushy, but would u answer the question I asked at the end of first comment?  it's an IRL issue.

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      Mazzy Boleroposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Do you mean the question about befriending someone to avoid being called judgmental? No, I wouldn't befriend someone whose conduct I found reprehensible. People could call me whatever they liked.

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   gmwilliamsposted 12 years ago

   People love to judge other people.   People love to have artificial constructs regarding other people.   There is a consensus of us versus them with us being the better and more desirable while the them being the worse and less desirable. 
   
   There are some people who adamantly portend that they, by some authority, are better than others.  By virtue of this belief, they believe that they have the unmitigated right to tell others how they should live their lives.   Other people go even further, attempting to or prosletyzing other people to  either live the way they live or they go into a litany of how wrong and lost they are.   
   
   There are people out there who simply do not believe in the principle, live and let live.   They are so busy looking into the lives of other people.    They portend that if they have a certain belief and/or lifestyle,  then in their estimation, others should do likewise and they are the people to "help" them do so.

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      dndswordsmithposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for your answer. I have to say not only with this answer but also in other forums I seem to enjoy some of your questions, responses and writings.

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      gmwilliamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you so much.

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   dunja-88posted 12 years ago

   everyone judges sometimes,and no they dont have the right to judge you

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      dndswordsmithposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you.

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    pstraubie48posted 12 years ago

    Unfortunately it seems that some among us think they are superior to others because of their intelligence, their social status, their economic status or for some other reason unknown to us. They seem to feel compelled to pass judgment on others.
    They actually believe that their view of things is the correct and only view that is worthy of even being consdiered.
    Many of these who adopt this posture alienate others and wind up sad, lonely, and bitter. If I find a judgmental thought creeping into my consciousness, I repeat to myself...it is not my place to judge others. It has taken practice but it is a way to dismiss such thoughts.

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    onegoodwomanposted 12 years ago

    There is no " God Complex"..........at work.
    
    
    Some behaviours are fitting, expected, tolerated, and become a part of the norm.
    
    
    Some behaviours stretch our imaginations of the norm and the accepted.
    
    
    Some, quite frankly, shock and offend us all.
    
    
    
    Some, few, offend us to the point, that a few, would dare stand to challenge the whole, collective whole, and cry " unmerciful" even, after the fact that mercy has extended her just due.
    
    
    It is you, the few, who dares to ask WHY the offender raped my daughter, my Grandmother or Me...........
    
    a crime was committed.........and YOU are asking the victim.......WHY
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    
    It is you, few, who make the collective whole..................quite frankly.........sick to our guts.

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       dndswordsmithposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       ???, thank you for your answer

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    Mrs Jil Manningposted 12 years ago

    I think its a habit, which starts with judging ourselves, and situations, then extends to judging other people.  Try to spend a day not labelling stuff that happens as 'good' or 'bad' or criticising yourself internally for things, that should illustrate the depth of our judging habits!

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       dndswordsmithposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       Judging your answer a very interesting viewpoint.

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    Express10posted 12 years ago

    When our "judgement" is used only for the purpose of entertaining ourselves or belittling others, this is a misuse of it. Many people do this only to feel better about themselves because there is little or nothing within them to be proud of to begin with. Others judge others to feel like they belong to a larger group and because they value that over doing what's right.
    
    Our judgement or intuition can save our lives (or others) when used in the proper situations. For example, if you were walking back to your car after a movie or concert and a group of people that appeared to be thugs, gang members, or trouble makers walked towards you, would you walk right into that group? Or, would you cross the street, go into a business, or find another way to avoid them?

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       dndswordsmithposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       I see, peer pressure can be an excuse to be judgemental towards others. Judgement can be based on intuition and perception as well as ridicule, antagonism, contempt, disapproval, etc. Thank you for your answer

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    Lisa HWposted 12 years ago

    I think it's not so much a "God complex" as a simple, over-inflated, ego.  Some people get their confidence (and healthy ego) by building it on what they have (traits/character-wise), are, or do (separate from what anyone else does, thinks, or says to them) that is worthy of feeling good about inside. 
    
    Other people draw their confidence (rather than gain it or build it "legitimately") not so much from what they, themselves, are, do,have (again, traits/character-wise), or accomplish; but instead, from what others have "bestowed" on them, from stuff that isn't really "the measure of a man", or by measuring themselves against those who are/have/accomplish (in their eyes) less than they do.  When confidence is built on what is essentially meaningless, it amounts to being built on imagination (and imagination allows an ego to be as fluffed up as the person wants/needs it to be).  A big and fragile, fluffed up, ego needs constant feeding.  A healthy one does not.

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       dndswordsmithposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       There seems to be a consensus (online and offline discussion) that ego has a big part in association with judging others, therfore that would make the "God Complex" non-existent when dealing with being judgemental due to ego.

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    tamarawilhiteposted 8 years ago

    If you're judging people for judging others by standards, isn't that a violation of your tenets?
    Seriously, there must be clear standards of right and wrong or morality is relative to each person, creating chaos AND allowing anything including murder and rape because we can't call anything anyone can justify immoral.

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