Should I give my man a chance even though he betrayed me for the first time? ?

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   chejom2010posted 14 years ago

   Should I give my man a chance even though he betrayed me for the first time?
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   I found out last night that my boyfriend have other relationship and the girl wants a clarification or closure ..do i need to believe my boyfriend again?

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   Claudin_Dayoposted 14 years ago

   I bet you should? O_o though risking hurts but so that you won't regret anything.. do it ! Give room to second chances and if he'll betray you again then bury him in the sea of forgetfulness )

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   Tirzah Laughsposted 14 years ago

   Most of the time, a cheater is always a cheater.
   
   If you wish to give him another chance (and it's up to you), start over from the beginning.
   
   He has to rebuild that trust from the ground up.   It'll be very hard to not suspect him each time he's late.  Each time he gets a strange phone call.
   
   Once someone breaks this kind of trust, it's hard to trust them again. 
   
   But if you believe it was a one time mistake, go slow and start over. 
   
   If you think this was a long time affair where he lied to you constantly, then dump him.    Guys who lie like that and are good at it are dogs.

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   QudsiaP1posted 14 years ago

   Once a cheater, always a cheater. Give him a chance only if you wish to be heart broken aain.

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   nightwork4posted 14 years ago

   i wouldn't give my girl another chance if she cheated so i wouldn't give him a chance if i was you.

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   lostdogrwdposted 14 years ago

   I,m sorry to hub this to you but if there no marriage , there no betrayed. you can see him or not, but the question is what do you want. just fun committed sex  with men or a husband. if this is the man you want to be you husband than you will know.

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   Effectivemediaposted 14 years ago

   OK there isn't a easy answer or a solution to that question. Now I don't want to sound like a hippy but when it happened to me it was about communication. I mean did he cheat or was it just a rumour? A cry for help? We don't have a great deal of detail.
   
   The last thing you want is some BS response like "when it happened to me I kicked the ***** down the stairs." or "I set fire to his car."  What I did do though was say hang on, how can we save this? I am guessing the reason you came here is that you think alot of this guy right? There are online guides like the one on my hub but they're not for everyone and I'm certainly not going to ram one down your throat. That would be irresponsible. Anyhow whatever you decide, don't delay and let the misunderstandings eat into you. If you want to resolve it, you can.

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   Jarnposted 14 years ago

   Whether or not you give him a chance is ultimately up to your discretion. Logic should be the deciding factor, as your heart will lie and tell you it won't happen again because it refuses to accept the possibility that it will.
   
   I hardly think it necessary to point out that, should you choose to take him back, you get to spend the next few weeks raking him over hot coals, so you do have that going for you.

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   Loving_Lifeposted 14 years ago

   You shouldn't give him another chance at all!!
   
   If my boyfriend were to cheat on me theres NO WAY Id ever beleive him when he said he'd never do it again etc because he probably will.
   And you don't need to be hurt inside and always having the thought in your head that 'what if hes cheating on me'? etc
   Just end it for good and find yourself a better man!

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