If you man has cheated on you once, would you be willing to trust him again?
Perhaps. Is he truly repentant or do you suspect he is a serial cheater? In some cases, forgiveness is in order. It really depends upon the partnership two people have created. That's where a woman must look at the pros and cons of staying versus leaving. Many couples are able to sustain a relationship even if one partner cheats once. Trust can be rebuilt over time. Needless to say, the ground is very shaky in the beginning stages of "trying again." Go with your gut and set your emotions aside, even though it's hard not to see red!
Having said that, it is important for women to know that only about 20% of men remain absolutely faithful. That's one of the reasons why I urge women to be very selective about whom they choose to date (or marry).
Long story short, it depends. One needn't always throw out the baby with the bath water.
Once a cheater always a cheater. I would rather be single forever than commit to a man who has so little respect for me and our relationship.
So many factors to consider. But - I think I would move on if possible because even if he is well-intentioned - trusting him again will be so hard. Every phone call, email, or unexplained absence will get your mind reeling and wondering. And if you have to police someone to keep them on track - it is not worth it.
Thank you everyone for your comments. Please know, though, that this is not based on personal experience. I am fortunate that my boyfriend of 7 years has not done this to me yet (and I am not waiting for it). I just wanted to see other peoples' perspectives.
No I wouldn't. It doesn't matter what his excuse is, I couldn't get past my man being intimate with another woman. The thought of it discusts me!
Its hard. I understand everyone makes mistakes, but its difficult to see infidelity as a mistake. In a mistake someone says oops and tries to make it better. How does this just happen when the act of sex is so deliberate. It doesn't, contrary to the popular excuse.
It is why I have trust in God rather than man. Man will change. God won't. I can have a relationship with a man who has the same beliefs as I do. Because just as this man would like for you to forgive him and let the matter go, could he do the same thing if you were the one cheating? Ask him that. When the shoe is on the other foot the reaction is vastly different.
I'm sorry but no. Although I'll be willing to forgive after a considerable amount of time, I'll be more than willing to also forget. Someone who puts you through that situation isn't worth your time and effort.
I would leave him and never talk to him again! That`s just me though
Thats a no, no. If he changes his mind and wants to be with somebody else, I'll make it easy for him opening the back door so he can leave.
by COCOBEWARE 6 years ago
Would you leave your spouse if he/she only cheated once? Where do you draw the line?
by Carolee Samuda 2 years ago
How do you fix a relationship whose trust has been broken by infidelity?
by Annette Thomas 2 months ago
Okay Hublettes. What are your thoughts on "once a cheater always a cheater?" Let's get real here and make it like it was in 20010. Yippee. Let's go !!
by danielthorne 8 years ago
THis has been my experience...these types will always jusify or have a need or desire to fuck around on the side...for just about anyreason...they get mad cause they can't always have what they want in a relationship so...that is a good enough reason...
by Chibuzo Melvin Mobis 8 years ago
Folk, he is your confident companion, you do everything to satisfy all his needs and in return for your love, he treats you like the moon and the star, you are considered his Queen, he wash your cloths, under wears, cooks for you and even rob your feet, he makes sure that you lack nothing.He is so...
by chejom2010 8 years ago
Should I give my man a chance even though he betrayed me for the first time??I found out last night that my boyfriend have other relationship and the girl wants a clarification or closure ..do i need to believe my boyfriend again?
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