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If you man has cheated on you once, would you be willing to trust him again?

  1. odeisa profile image60
    odeisaposted 6 years ago

    If you man has cheated on you once, would you be willing to trust him again?

  2. savvydating profile image95
    savvydatingposted 6 years ago

    Perhaps. Is he truly repentant or do you suspect he is a serial cheater? In some cases, forgiveness is in order. It really depends upon the partnership two people have created. That's where a woman must look at the pros and cons of staying versus leaving. Many couples are able to sustain a relationship even if one partner cheats once. Trust can be rebuilt over time. Needless to say, the ground is very shaky in the beginning stages of "trying again." Go with your gut and set your emotions aside, even though it's hard not to see red!
    Having said that, it is important for women to know that only about 20% of men remain absolutely faithful. That's one of the reasons why I urge women to be very selective about whom they choose to date (or marry).
    Long story short, it depends. One needn't always throw out the baby with the bath water.

  3. SopranoRocks profile image59
    SopranoRocksposted 6 years ago

    Once a cheater always a cheater.  I would rather be single forever than commit to a man who has so little respect for me and our relationship.

  4. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 6 years ago

    So many factors to consider.  But - I think I would move on if possible because even if he is well-intentioned - trusting him again will be so hard.  Every phone call, email, or unexplained absence will get your mind reeling and wondering. And if you have to police someone to keep them on track - it is not worth it.

  5. odeisa profile image60
    odeisaposted 6 years ago

    Thank you everyone for your comments. Please know, though, that this is not based on personal experience. I am fortunate that my boyfriend of 7 years has not done this to me yet (and I am not waiting for it). I just wanted to see other peoples' perspectives.

  6. stricktlydating profile image83
    stricktlydatingposted 6 years ago

    No I wouldn't. It doesn't matter what his excuse is, I couldn't get past my man being intimate with another woman.  The thought of it discusts me!

  7. Hezmyjoy profile image60
    Hezmyjoyposted 6 years ago

    Its hard. I understand everyone makes mistakes, but its difficult to see infidelity as a mistake. In a mistake someone says oops and tries to make it better. How does this just happen when the act of sex is so deliberate. It doesn't, contrary to the popular excuse.
    It is why I have trust in God rather than man. Man will change. God won't. I can have a relationship with a man who has the same beliefs as I do. Because just as this man would like for you to forgive him and let the matter go, could he do the same thing if you were the one cheating? Ask him that. When the shoe is on the other foot the reaction is vastly different.

  8. MickS profile image73
    MickSposted 6 years ago

    Is there a different answer then if a woman cheated?

  9. Smart is Good profile image59
    Smart is Goodposted 6 years ago

    I'm sorry but no. Although I'll be willing to forgive after a considerable amount of time, I'll be more than willing to also forget. Someone who puts you through that situation isn't worth your time and effort.

  10. xethonxq profile image63
    xethonxqposted 6 years ago

    Hell no..................................................

  11. MeaghanMossburg profile image61
    MeaghanMossburgposted 6 years ago

    I would leave him and never talk to him again! That`s just me though

  12. AnnaCia profile image84
    AnnaCiaposted 5 years ago

    Thats a no, no. If he changes his mind and wants to be with somebody else, I'll make it easy for him opening the back door so he can leave.