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Is it right that the man you are with have a problem with you having a child but

  1. Cindy562 profile image57
    Cindy562posted 7 years ago

    Is it right that the man you are with have a problem with you having a child but he still loves you?

    After 5months of being together lets just say he confesses to you and tells you he isnt used to dating a woman with a child because he had his whole life planned already and this is something new to him but  he says he still loves you. He suggest you take things slow and doesnt really want the baby around him at all so she won't get confused. He doesnt let you take her around the family anymore or to his house like you used to every Sunday afternoon. He doesn't talk about her, doesn't really mention her at all..does this mean he's not accepting the child?


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    reeltaulkposted 7 years ago

    Do the math hun, how can someone truly love you and not love your off spring!  Anyone behaving like that should be rejected out of your life as well as your SpACe.  I know, maybe the reality check is a tad bit too real to handle.  But it's best you deal with it now than later when you have invested so much time, money, energy and SelF only to be disappointed with an outcome you fore saw as well as were warned about.

    Vonda G. Nelson

  3. ron0540 profile image61
    ron0540posted 7 years ago

    Sorry Cindy.  Its time to say good bye to this guy.  He absolutely, with out hesitation, and unconditionally must accept your daughter as part of you.  There is a difference between "taking it  slow", and "using you for his selfish reasons".  I was in a relationship with a woman that did not like my kids.  I tried to work it out but she just did not like my kids and it was a miserable relationship.  It hurt my kids, the relationship, it hurt me cause no matter what I tried, it was never enough. 
    Save yourself, and your daughter, future pain and sadness.  Move on immediately.  There are many people out there that are sincere and caring and able to understand and accept a relationship that goes beyond two people. 
    Your daughters well being has to be a priority and with her happiness will come much love and rewards for you. 
    There really are some males who will love you and your daughter unconditionally.  Don't rush, he's there, and you will meet him.
    My best to you and yours

  4. tysanders profile image62
    tysandersposted 7 years ago

    That's exactly what it means. How can he fully love you if he can't accept your offspring? Children are innocent and precious so any man who is struggling to find love in his heart for the child of a woman he "claims" to love is nothing but trouble for you in the long run. In so many words he's telling you I like you but I can't stand your child. I hate to tell you but that is not love. Get rid of this guy immediately and put your child first!

  5. 1kmjs profile image80
    1kmjsposted 6 years ago

    Are you kidding me, look at that baby. Anyone whom wouldnt want to be around her even for a minute is purely evil. That baby is bloody adorable. I honestly cannot believe you right now, you get rid of this guy and hug that baby now!