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Can NOT MY TYPE end up being Mr. or Mrs. Right?

  1. Glimmer515 profile image73
    Glimmer515posted 7 years ago

    We all have a certain ideas of what "our type"  is , but is it possible to end up falling for someone who you werent originally attracted to?

    1. Betty Reid profile image60
      Betty Reidposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      With most of the guys I've dated I either started off thinking they were just okay or I didn't notice them at all.  I guess technically they were not Mr. Right, but some of them were nice boyfriends.

    2. oishi profile image55
      oishiposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      It is not only possible but happens most of the time. When love is there technical detail matching does not matter.

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      MrDSpadeposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      My answer to Glimmer515 would be yes, being in a situation simular to the question she asked, I have some insight on what she's talking about. My experience was meeting a girl i never met before, ended up taking her home on the same night i met her and after wards begin a relationship for a couple and then dramatically ended.

    4. katiem2 profile image58
      katiem2posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      You bet you can!  I've been jolted a time or two by my complete opposite said type.  Thrilling smile

    5. Marisa Wright profile image97
      Marisa Wrightposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yes.  I think we often have misconceptions about what "our type" really is. 

      We've all heard of (or met) women who keep going out with the wrong men.  Clearly, they wouldn't choose those men unless they thought they were the right "type".

      Sometimes it's only when we stop looking for a preconceived type, that we meet the man who really is our type.

      1. the pink umbrella profile image78
        the pink umbrellaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        so right, i always thought my "type" was the dark mysterious guy that wrote poetry and was all sensative, but that never lasted. It was the big guys that were real guys guys that were actualy long lasting relationships.

    6. rebekahELLE profile image88
      rebekahELLEposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      sure it is, I don't think it's so much type as it is 'timing' and our own expectations.

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      Contriceposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, Yes, Yes, and more Yes!   (Personal note) When me and my now fiance first met, I hated his guts (lol) I could not stand him.  I thought he was arrogrant, cocky (with no reason to be), stupid (academically and about life in general), sex crazed and just down right annoying.  Fast forward 6 years and we are engaged.

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      Chastened Writerposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I married someone who was not my "type" and who I was not physically attracted to.  In some ways, this was a blessing as our emotional relationship was better able to blossom.  However, over time, the lack of physical attraction can become a problem.  While deep love and commitment can often cause the physical attraction to increase over time, I would also suggest you go with your gut instinct.  Every time I have pursued a relationship with someone where I initially had "WARNING" going off in my head, I always ended up regretting it.  I have found that your first instincts and impressions are usually correct.

  2. donotfear profile image87
    donotfearposted 7 years ago

    Sure..people change all the time. I wasn't infatuated and drawn to my spousey at first but it hit me later.

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    foreignpressposted 7 years ago

    Women don't have a clue as to what is Mr. Right. Most women are conditioned to want a "manly-man"; someone who is tall, strong, powerful, deep voice, rugged, and yet a man who is tender and caring. But these two qualities are inherently contradictory. A rugged he-man is not likely to care much for children. It's only after women have been through numerous sour relationships -- to include divorce -- do they understand what a man is.
       Many women are subsequently disappointed that there is no Prince Charming who will rescue them from the ravages of life. So they have to redefine what it is they truly want. That takes years of much anguish and pain. Some women still hold out for that strong arm to lean on but they end up bitter and disillusioned.
       A real man is what lies within.

    1. SomewayOuttaHere profile image59
      SomewayOuttaHereposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      hmmmm  interesting thoughts......not my experience of what you describe as a 'manly-man or rugged he-man'.  i agree with 'what lies within' - but  for both sexes actually. smile

    2. Glimmer515 profile image73
      Glimmer515posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      i have recently been asked out by a long time friend who i never saw as more than that which is why i asked the question but foreignpress your response has truly made me want to give it a real chance so thankyou!

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        foreignpressposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Just my personal experiences. We're bombarded by stereotypes that cloud rational thinking. Glad I could be of assistance.

  4. blondepoet profile image70
    blondepoetposted 7 years ago

    Omg hell yes.
    Happens to me all the time.
    It is like suddenly you wake up one day, you go to look at Kermit The Frog and suddenly he looks like Mel Gibson. Something just magically happens. Love is strange.

    1. Pearldiver profile image79
      Pearldiverposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      YEP.... Wasn't THAT a party? hmm
      Rrrrrrrr ivotttt lol

  5. jennshealthstore profile image89
    jennshealthstoreposted 7 years ago

    Yes. I learned that the hard way. I always had a "type" of guy I was looking for. My friends always told me to be more open minded. When I finally decided, what do I have to lose, I found a man who was actually the opposite of what I was use to, and he wound up being the biggest love of my life. Keeping an open mind is important!

  6. ilmdamaily profile image63
    ilmdamailyposted 7 years ago

    I have a feeling it's more of a "woman thing."

    I know, I know, that sounds really mysoginist(sp?).

    But from my own experience, it's really only ever been a "love at first sight" thing...you either love a woman the moment you see her for the first time...or you don't.

    And never the twain shall meet. I've never felt the "slow boil"...and hope I never do actually.

    At least for me that's the case...other guys?

    1. Marisa Wright profile image97
      Marisa Wrightposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      That's lust, not love.

  7. Greek One profile image72
    Greek Oneposted 7 years ago

    sure it is.. a woman can always win the lottery or something that will make her look REALLY pretty

    1. Glimmer515 profile image73
      Glimmer515posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      haha I like this one, not really heart felt just pointing out a funny benefit to the situation!

  8. Rochelle Frank profile image95
    Rochelle Frankposted 7 years ago

    Oh, yeah. My Mom liked the athletic outgoing type, but found out that the steady, quiet guy with the sense of humor and total dedication lasted 60 years.

    1. Glimmer515 profile image73
      Glimmer515posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Thats amazing! 60 years! That is something to truly be proud of!

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    kimberlyslyricsposted 7 years ago

    No. They can not.

  10. lorlie6 profile image82
    lorlie6posted 7 years ago

    Oh jeeze, this one is easy-for me.  I married a guy who was 18 and I was 33.  Talk about not my type!  We've made it last for 22 years now!

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      kimberlyslyricsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      totally lame Lorlie, lame.

      1. lorlie6 profile image82
        lorlie6posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Oh, hush, girl! smile