What would your reaction be if one of your children came to you and told you the

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   raising6kidsposted 14 years ago

   What would your reaction be if one of your children came to you and told you they were gay?

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   Deborah Novacekposted 14 years ago

   I got verification that my son was gay when he was in the 9th grade. He didn't come to me and tell me, but rather responded to a direct question that I asked.  When he responded that he was, indeed, gay, I told him that first and foremost I loved him, had always loved him and would always love him - just the way he is. He is a healthy, smart hard-working guy with a great personality. I love him as he is, without regard to his sexuality. I told him I was proud of him and glad he was my son and that I wouldn't change him or trade him for anything.
   
   As far as I know, he is the only gay member of my family. There was a time of "readjustment" for me, as I came to terms with the fact that he wouldn't be living out the "get married to a nice girl and have grandkids" thing. But I became adjusted to that fact after a while.
   
   Hope that helps...

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   Lovesloveposted 14 years ago

   Nothing....I loved them before I knew,..
   I love my children unconditionally ,gender doesnt make them  less loved and I would hope that if it ever happened my children would have the knowledge that no matter what,  i love them !

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   BeckyAposted 14 years ago

   I would probably feel like I had been punched in the gut, but I would make sure my child knew that my love doesn't go away, no matter what.  I would probably have to meditate a bit to achieve serenity, but I would make the effort to accept my child's partner because my child chose him/her.

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   dawnMposted 14 years ago

   II would be thank-full that my child #1 would feel that the relationship was safe enough to confident in   his  parents  rather than hiding it and having to deal with it on his own, which by the way can lead to many horrible outcomes for kids.
   
   #2 the love that a parent has for a child is to raise them for who they are and to have them be a happy person and go out into the world and make it a better place regardless of their sexual preference.

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   raising6kidsposted 14 years ago

   Thank you guys for all the feedback. I agree completely, I love my children unconditionally. Will always love them for who they are no matter the circumstance. Love to see many parents feel the same.

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