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If your adult son or daughter came to you and told you they were gay, how would

  1. Ana Koulouris profile image77
    Ana Koulourisposted 3 years ago

    If your adult son or daughter came to you and told you they were gay, how would you respond?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    I'd tell them I hope he/she finds someone who would love them and treat them well. After all he or she would still be my child. I'd only want the best for them. You can't control the love life of other people.
    Having a gay/lesbian child shouldn't be a "deal breaker" for parents. It beats having a child that's a criminal any day! Family is (home).
    There are things far worse than an adult child's sexual orientation.

  3. lisavollrath profile image97
    lisavollrathposted 3 years ago

    I'd thank them for telling me, and tell them I love them and want them to be happy, as I always have.

  4. gmwilliams profile image86
    gmwilliamsposted 3 years ago


    I would LOVE them.  I also would have inculcated them from childhood that sexual orientation is inconsequential as long as the relationship is respectful & consensual.  I would have told them that it would not matter if they are heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual, or asexual as long as they are comfortable in their own being & uniqueness.

  5. Sri T profile image81
    Sri Tposted 3 years ago

    I would say, its none of my business. Enjoy life. You are grown. Do whatever you want.

    1. Sri T profile image81
      Sri Tposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      It's strange how anybody against it is put in the negative feedback section. Why ask the question if you only want to hear the people who are for it?

  6. Aime F profile image84
    Aime Fposted 3 years ago

    The same way I would respond if my adolescent son or daughter told me they were gay: Good for you, I support you, find someone who loves you, and be happy.

  7. vicki simms profile image76
    vicki simmsposted 3 years ago

    I would be happy that they felt they could talk to me about being gay and it would not make an ounce of difference for me whether they were gay or straight, as long as they were happy then that makes me happy.

  8. pagesvoice profile image86
    pagesvoiceposted 3 years ago

    Responsible parents give their children roots and then we give them wings. We love our children unconditionally and should care about whether they are happy or not. Love is in the heart and mind and should not be about body parts. So my response would most likely be, "Good for you! If you are happy then I am equally as happy for you."

  9. CrescentSkies profile image86
    CrescentSkiesposted 3 years ago

    "Neat. Why did you wait 15 years to tell me about this, though?"

  10. moonfairy profile image81
    moonfairyposted 3 years ago

    like almost every answer already here, I would respond with love. My niece just "came out" and I couldn't be happier for her. She is bright, beautiful, smart and simply amazing....and she's crazy in love with her partner, which is just fabulous!!! If I had to sum it up in just one word, I would say

  11. Exotic_Kitten profile image46
    Exotic_Kittenposted 3 years ago

    I would allow my kid(s) to choose without making a fuss, there is nothing wrong with same gender relationships. You can't decide who you fall in love with or what you fall in love with, it just happens. Just like with ages, young and old you love those that you love.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with accepting same gender relationships. However I think it's a "romantic notion" to believe we have no say in who we (fall in love) with. We get to choose who we spend time with/date, kiss/have sex with. A "no" rules out love for us.

    2. Nadia Ribadu profile image61
      Nadia Ribaduposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Huh?  A stupid apples and oranges comparison, just to keep up with what's popular and trendy.  God help us!

    3. Robert the Bruce profile image60
      Robert the Bruceposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      What do you mean, Nadia? If you are implying that being homosexual is somehow just a popular trend, then you are demonstrating your ignorance of the issue. Am I mistaken as to your intent?

    4. jonnycomelately profile image82
      jonnycomelatelyposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I would be interested to hear about more of you and your life choices, Nadia.  We don't all have to agree upon any issue, however if you told us more about you it could let us understand your choices more.

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    raevenboxposted 3 years ago

    My children will always receive my love and support. Sexuality is something I have challenged them to think about and form their own opinions, and as they did, they learned that everyone loves differently and that is okay. To love another person, unconditionally, is such a great feat in itself and they, as I, believe no person should be judged, condemned, or stereotyped for who they love.
    My daughter is 20 and my son will soon be 14. They are the most accepting, understanding, and supportive individuals I know. Watching controversial shows such as Sister Wives, I strike up conversations with my children. What you do think about that situation? Do you think you could ever do that? Do you think it is okay to love 4 wives and have that many children?
    Their answers are always similar -
    I don't know if I could do that but if they all accept one another, agree, and love each other, then I don't see a problem.
    My favorite question from my son a couple years ago:
    "It's illegal???? WHY is it illegal to love 4 women? That's just mean. It shouldn't be illegal to love whoever you want and raise a family how you want."
    This gave me the opportunity to share with him many of the 'outdated' laws and beliefs regarding relationships, love, marriage, and family.

    As for my 20 year old daughter, she was braver than I was; searching to define her sexuality at 13 or 14; allowing me to be more honest and express my sexuality to her - as we are both bisexual.
    She feels comfortable discussing relationship questions, sexuality questions, and more with me because she can relate to me. I am so thankful and blessed to have the opportunity to share my struggles and success with my daughter as we both learn how to live life on our own terms, accepting our sexuality and not ashamed of it. I admit, I am slower to proclaim my status than she but still proud.
    Teaching my children to love others beyond normal bounds, is carving a path for future changes. My grandchildren may see polyamorous marriages in their lifetime!