I don't have many friends because i find it....

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   jessyferari1posted 13 years ago

   I don't have many friends because i find it....
   
   Difficult to make new ones, but i do read and tend to know about things, but one thing i need to know is> how do i expand my knowledge about life and my surroundings when I'm around a limited amount of people whom i see everyday..do you understand what I'm trying to explain here???
   
   

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   Boogrposted 13 years ago

   Let me see if I understand what you are getting at here....
   You want to know more about the social situations around you, so since you like to read, find a local homepage for your city's events, parties, and places to go. I had a difficult time making friends when I moved to LA, not because there arent alot of ppl, just because I'm picky. I spent alot of time just driving around and finding cool places that I would enjoy around me, and started going. It took a while, but the more I got myself out socially, the more I started to meet people like myself and learn about my city. If this isnt what you were looking for, I'm sorry... but the question is kinda broad.

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   jessyferari1posted 13 years ago

   Boogr...
        
   Sorry it seemed that way, but yes  you got the right answer to my question, I too I'm picky when it comes to making friends because the friends i do keep are what one might call best friends. I over think things and when i meet someone that i feel i want to be friends with i think long term friendship and if i don't see it that way, i detach myself from the start.  Whats your advice?

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   Right On Timeposted 13 years ago

   *You* have to push here. Try and meet new people! For example, strike up conversations with customers, new people you meet for a second. People are shy and nervous and not that confident in themselves. Its up to you to make that first step.

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   justgotluckyposted 13 years ago

   You might wanna take a risk. Being in a short term/long term friendship is up to you. People are different, we have our own unique first impressions to the people we meet. Be yourself, go out, smile or say Hi or start a small talk. It helps a lot. Before, I was picky with friends too, just give it sometime to know them and you'll see, you'll end up having lots of true good friends.

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   Ashantinaposted 13 years ago

   You just gotta get on and up out of your comfort zone, and I am in the process of taking my own advice. Aint nothing wrong with being picky, you have to be with anyone you decide to share your time with!
   How about joining a book club since you like reading.. or maybe start your own!!

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   Visual Hobbyistposted 13 years ago

   You might need to just press yourself outside of your comfort zone and try new things, like a club, a class, a group, etc. I find that people are not very inclined to approach people because they are shy or might feel embarrassed about what the other person might think of them. Just push past this and introduce yourself to people who pique your interest. Also, first impressions are not always the best indicators of a person's true character, like maybe you met someone while they were in a bad mood. Maybe give that person another chance, just to see if your initial assessment of them was accurate. It takes an effort to meet people, but when making friends, you have to be even more patient, which can be difficult sometimes.

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