Results, results, results! No really, I get an inner peace when I know my decision was right. It may not be the road most traveled, liked by others, or even what I really want, but if it's right I'll be assured! Thanks, ncdf001
Decisions that connects your mind with your heart and satisfies both are supposed to be right decision. Which does not get effected by any influence or negativity.
The first "test" about knowing if it is "right" is to ask myself if my decision was based on love, if it was made from a place of love. If I make a decision based on love, it is usually the right decision.
For example, the first few times my brother came to me and asked if I could lend him some money, I said "yes" because I love my brother and want him to succeed. Maybe he needed the money for rent or groceries or whatever. It didn't matter to me because I lent it from a place of love.
But then I got to feeling that my loaning him money was becoming the "wrong" thing to do because I was making it too easy for him to solve his problems. I began to say "no" every now and then so that I didn't enable him to become a borrower all the time. This forced him to seek some of his own solutions such as creating a budget, stop going out to get lunch at fast food places, not spending money on things he didn't really need. It wasn't easy at first to say "no" because it felt like I was meaning "no" I don't want to help you or "no" I don't love you. But I knew I was making a decision based on love. In the end things worked out well for both of us. He knew I loved him and would still help him in a crisis but also that I expected him to move toward a positive solution and for him to make the right decision.
I hope this helped.
When you get the result you wanted. It's also a gut feeling that you did the right thing.
There are no right and wrong decisions, only the consequences to learn from. When we make a decision that fits into your circumstance, there are minimal consequences. When we make a poor decision, before exploring the possible ramifications, we usually pay for it in some way. Everything has to be in a state of balance; if we upset the balance there will be a consequence and then a return to balance. This is what I call a universal law. It is good to understand this process- it often saves us a lot of pain. But the way to look at it, is the pain is something we have to learn from. So, in the end it's always a win situation, if you can look at it like that.
Usually you have a sense of peace about it as you are then true to yourself. Your decision fits in with who you are and your circumstances and you have not transgressed any law.
if its the decision that FEELS the best, without any influence or second guessing with reasons that don't feel good
because when you dont, you get that knot in your stomach, your solar plexus... which lets you know something aint right..
And you know when you have made the right decision when you can sleep at night
When the right decision is made a sense of relief usually follows. Also, positive results normally come to fruition. However, bad decisions are okay sometimes, b/c that is how we learn the lesson (or should) and become wiser.
Because,the end justify the means.It all comes out in the wash.
The good news is...........you cannot make the wrong decision. There is a theory that you are always make the best decision given your knowledge which is never perfect. You cannot predict the outcome, you cannot foresee the future (there will be too many variables involved of which you know nothing). If you are not happy with the consequences, then you correct your course.
Just like an airplane. It does not travel from Point A to Point B on a straight line. It veers off course, comes back, veers off course in the other direction, adjusts, veers off course... So the airplane arrives on the right spot at the right time "being off course (in error) for 90% of the time."
You always have to remember when you make a decision you can travel only one path, but not both A and B, therefore you only know the consequences of the decision you made, but not the forgone scenario (the other branches of the decision - become speculations - what if, what if, what if.... Calm down, there is no WHAT IF. You will make a right decision - always, just don't forget - TO CORRECT YOUR COURSE.
Take anything for example - "to post or not to post this question on HubPages".
1) not to post - more time for yourself, no need to read answers, possibility to ask something else. Possibility forgone for Decision #2.
2) to post - you got some responses and ... (fill in the blank)
What was the right decision and how do you know whether you made the right decision?
Because once I've made a decision about something, there's an incredible sense of peace within me. Like the load on my shoulders was magically removed. Even if it might not be good for everyone involved, I feel better about the situation.
You know in your gut when you have made the right desision.
every decision is right.. and it's our approach to the result that makes it wrong. i think it's best when we accept the results of every decision we make, and then use the lessons in our next decision making
If you guts tells you that what you have decided on doing is right, then you've made a decision but knowing you have made the right or the wrong decision is left with the outcome of your decision. Otherwise, i say its the conscience that tells if you are wrong of right.
This will depend on the sensory preferences - people either FEEL, KNOW or SEE.
People with kinesthetic sensory preference would say: I've got a
gut feeling, It feels right, I can smell the victory etc...
People with visual sensory preference would say: I see what happened, It's crystal clear why it happened etc
People with auditory sensory preference would say: My decision sounds good to me, I hear, they will use a lot of metaphors etc.
Just observe and learn your sensory preferences. Very useful not just for decision making, but also to understand what the other person is trying to say.
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