One of the most common problems that clients complain about is their inability to make a decision. This isn’t the same as procrastinating, where you put off doing most things. I’m taking about needing to decide yes or no, or to choose between different alternatives, e.g., should I do this or that? And an awful lot of people just don’t want to choose.
Why would so many people (including possibly you) put off making decisions when the failure to act often results in negative consequences in their lives? Should I ask that woman I like out on a date? Should I go out with the man who asked me out? Should I ask for a raise? Should I take this job or that job? Where should we go on vacation? Should we allow our teenage daughter make the trip she wants to make all alone?
The question I ask was for you to give your view not to Google up link what is your point THE QUESTION.
I find many people have trouble making decisions, I tend to be more proactive. I like to think about it like this, By making a decision I am choos
I have always had a hard time making decisions. It takes a long time, because I tend to weigh every single option every time. I don't know if I'm unusual, though, in that once I have made a decision, I want to act immediately. I absolutely hate hesitating to do what I've decided to do once I've chosen the path.
Hmm... I'm not sure. Seriously, though, this one I can actually answer. Yes! And the more choices, the harder it is. I think it might have something to do with the fact (at least I think it's a fact) that I'm a little bit O.C.... with the result that I have a fear of making wrong choices. I know, I know... "there is nothing to fear, but fear itself." What can I say? I try to overcome, but... c'est la vie. Hey, I'm still a work in progress (I hope!).
Making decisions is very important. We make tons and tons of decisions everyday. To me, decisions are very important. As we get older we make more and more important decisions. When I come to make a decision there are two ways to do it. Do it or just
Ch, Found it: It's the Myers Briggs Test! "There are those who prefer a closed-ended style of decision-making (judgers), and those who prefer to leave their decisions as open-ended as possible, for as long as possible (perceivers)." It's GOOD!
I'm always quick to make a decision especially if I have no other alternative.
Generally, I do not have much difficulty at all. Most of the decisions I make are somewhat easy, at least for me. When the hard decisions do come, I generally pick the one that seems best at the time and work with it; if it wasn't the best, I do something to make it better. I hardly ever hesitate.
Whether it is a big decision or not, I always go by my instinct. Therefor I find it easy to decide what I want to because I'm confident I'm making the right decision in that moment.
If I'm wrong I learn from it and move on knowing life is a constant flow of new fases and learning moments.
No. Actually, those who are affected by my quick decisions face a hard time!
It all depends on what kind of decision. Most of the time, we have a hard time making decisions because the problem has an emotional aspect to it, making us think irrationally. Our mind tells us to do one thing, while our heart tells us to do another. When there is no emotional component to it, most decisions are quite easily solved, even if all possible solutions are unpalatable. You just choose the lesser evil.
Certain times, it is hard to decide between 2 options. But then whenever it is needed to decide, I will go with my heart.
I wish I could remember what personality profiling system I was reading about that described why people like me can't seem to make decisions. I'm not sure if it's the one that describes random, abstract, concrete, sequential as four parameters of thinking, but that might be it.
ANYWAY, there is a certain type of thinker who has difficulty in making decisions because they are very open-ended and always waiting for more information. They never have closure, even AFTER a decision is made. I'm very much like that. As a kid I used to watch a movie, thinking, actually hoping that the next time, the ending might be different. No door is completely ever closed for me, including the door that my husband walked out of 20 years ago, in spite of the fact that he was extremely comfortable with closing that door and getting on to a new life very, very quickly.
As a matter of fact, even in the physical world, I have difficulty walking through doorways! People tell me I stop in the middle. I always have. A friend in college more than 40 years ago noticed this because he kept running into the back of me every time we walked from building to building. Actually, I really am happy with this "inability" and open-endedness which probably makes me totally maladjusted
(BTW If anyone is familiar with that personality profile research, I'd be interested in knowing which "test" that one it is connected with.)
What your talking about may be call ambivalence researchers have been investigating how ambivalence, or lack of it, affects people's lives, and how they might be able to make better decisions. Overall, thinking in shades of gray is a sign of maturity
Billie, discovered comments aren't allowed a lot of room, so have to keep this short. I understand! I am like that also in some ways. As for the personality type, I think you might be like me - "Melancholic." I'd just do a search engine for the test.
It certainly helps to make decisions slowing when it comes to war or divorce! My mother always said, "Measure 7 times, cut once."
cherihut that was nice sharing we all have some thing that some one else has and to share it is really great.
Sometimes making decisions are very hard for me. I think a lot even on silly matters and that may be the reason for it. I want the things I do to be perfect. So the decisions are also very necessary to be perfect.
I always make a final decision that I think is good for me and don't do any harm to others.
I don't have a hard time making decisions, I go with my gut and every time it is the right decision, I listen to my inner-self.
Personally, it depends on the severity of the decision. If it's something important, than I'll try to weigh out the pros and cons of either choice, and that usually results in a more difficult process. But if it's something simple, like choosing where to eat, then there's really no hesitation or tough-thinking on my end.
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