How to deal with an angry spouse?

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   LOT2DOposted 14 years ago

   How to deal with an angry spouse?

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   gg.zainoposted 14 years ago

   shoot him full of honey, if that doesn't work try lead....jus sayin

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   ssaulposted 14 years ago

   Well, give him time out each time. If it gets out of hand, seek anger management!

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   Edoka Writesposted 14 years ago

   Counseling if he'll go; if not, you need to take a break in order to show that you're serious about him needing an attitude adjustment.

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   yiasaposted 14 years ago

   get a new one (that's the best way). OR AS YOUR WISH

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   Bronson_Hubposted 14 years ago

   How to deal with an angry spouse?
   
   You must feel terrible   I know it can be so hard in those bad situations!  I know what it feels like to be where you are and feel so tired about all the crap, anger, resentment, and draining behavior your angry spouse is doing to you.  It almost feels like you're against a wall and once there, it's impossible to get above water to take the high ground for a therapeutic response to his anger.
   
   But you can empower yourself and start with a different word choice other than "deal"?  When we deal with something, we deal with an inconvenience.  We deal with a flat tire.  We deal with a crappy boss at work.  We deal with annoying customers.
   
   I would suggest looking to trying to improve things with someone who suffers from anger, and in turn, help yourself feel better in a toxic situation.  If he cannot follow your lead, it's time to make a decision and think about the reality that we are mortal, and our time really is unique in this whole mysterious thing in the universe, and abusive people have no right to ruin it for everyone else no matter what.  We have choices even in the worst situations. 
   
   If the title read, "How do you improve your relationship with an angry spouse?" That implies an optimistic, loving, and someone who suffers and wants to feel safe with their spouse.  It expresses concern because when we look to improve a relationship, it assumes that the underlying desire is that of mutual understanding, that we know someone we love suffers, and despite our best efforts to cope with it, we cannot effectively create a channel of communication to relate to one another.  Thus, the choice of words and attitude indicate something more might be going on under the surface of the post.

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   DIYweddingplannerposted 14 years ago

   I tried to "deal" with an angry spouse for years, thinking it was my fault that he was so angry all the tme.  After years of trying to be patient and waiting for him to get "un-angry", I asked him politely to leave.  It gets to a point where you cannot continue to accept the blame for someone else's negative emotions, espcially when you  know you are not to blame.

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   duffsmomposted 14 years ago

   It depends on why he is angry.  If he is just angry most of the time, for no apparent reason, it might well be depression.  If he tends to take it out on you, then walk away until he calms down, but don't feed or reward his anger by getting upset yourself.
   
   In a marriage, each person has to know there are limits in how we treat our spouses.  Just because we are married, does not me have to be treated without common courtesy. 
   
   Never ever allow yourself to be abused, whether physical or verbal.  Simply do not tolerate it.

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   arbposted 14 years ago

   I had a dog like that. He was just an angry dog. Took him to a doggie therapist and he made the therapist angry. I took him to the pound and left him there. I imagine he's still angry, but, I don't give a damn. Got a new dog. Happiest damn dog I've ever seen.

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    Dovay Leeposted 14 years ago

    This is a good question I think. it is unavoidable in life. I think first you should try to know what makes him or her angry. Try your best to calm him or her. Then you can listen to him or her quietly. After all these, when she or he is a little calm, you can tell him or her how to deal with these problem. Getting along well with our spouse is an art. It takes us a  long time to learn. Mutual understanding is also very important.

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    dianne143posted 14 years ago

    Just let it cool and talk to him when he calms down.

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    philirodjeposted 14 years ago

    First, I would like to know what happened, why is she angry then i would take it from there. If it is my fault, i would do everything possible to calm her down. but if she is just unnecessarily angry, then we have to talk. but praying for her is as important as discussing the issue with her.

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