How to deal with an angry spouse?

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  1. LOT2DO profile image39
    LOT2DOposted 9 years ago

    How to deal with an angry spouse?

  2. gg.zaino profile image73
    gg.zainoposted 9 years ago

    shoot him full of honey, if that doesn't work try lead....jus sayin

  3. profile image0
    ssaulposted 9 years ago

    Well, give him time out each time. If it gets out of hand, seek anger management!

  4. Edoka Writes profile image60
    Edoka Writesposted 9 years ago

    Counseling if he'll go; if not, you need to take a break in order to show that you're serious about him needing an attitude adjustment.

  5. yiasa profile image59
    yiasaposted 9 years ago

    get a new one (that's the best way). OR AS YOUR WISH

  6. Bronson_Hub profile image61
    Bronson_Hubposted 9 years ago

    How to deal with an angry spouse?

    You must feel terrible sad  I know it can be so hard in those bad situations!  I know what it feels like to be where you are and feel so tired about all the crap, anger, resentment, and draining behavior your angry spouse is doing to you.  It almost feels like you're against a wall and once there, it's impossible to get above water to take the high ground for a therapeutic response to his anger.

    But you can empower yourself and start with a different word choice other than "deal"?  When we deal with something, we deal with an inconvenience.  We deal with a flat tire.  We deal with a crappy boss at work.  We deal with annoying customers.

    I would suggest looking to trying to improve things with someone who suffers from anger, and in turn, help yourself feel better in a toxic situation.  If he cannot follow your lead, it's time to make a decision and think about the reality that we are mortal, and our time really is unique in this whole mysterious thing in the universe, and abusive people have no right to ruin it for everyone else no matter what.  We have choices even in the worst situations. 

    If the title read, "How do you improve your relationship with an angry spouse?" That implies an optimistic, loving, and someone who suffers and wants to feel safe with their spouse.  It expresses concern because when we look to improve a relationship, it assumes that the underlying desire is that of mutual understanding, that we know someone we love suffers, and despite our best efforts to cope with it, we cannot effectively create a channel of communication to relate to one another.  Thus, the choice of words and attitude indicate something more might be going on under the surface of the post.

  7. DIYweddingplanner profile image90
    DIYweddingplannerposted 9 years ago

    I tried to "deal" with an angry spouse for years, thinking it was my fault that he was so angry all the tme.  After years of trying to be patient and waiting for him to get "un-angry", I asked him politely to leave.  It gets to a point where you cannot continue to accept the blame for someone else's negative emotions, espcially when you  know you are not to blame.

  8. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 9 years ago

    It depends on why he is angry.  If he is just angry most of the time, for no apparent reason, it might well be depression.  If he tends to take it out on you, then walk away until he calms down, but don't feed or reward his anger by getting upset yourself.

    In a marriage, each person has to know there are limits in how we treat our spouses.  Just because we are married, does not me have to be treated without common courtesy. 

    Never ever allow yourself to be abused, whether physical or verbal.  Simply do not tolerate it.

  9. arb profile image81
    arbposted 9 years ago

    I had a dog like that. He was just an angry dog. Took him to a doggie therapist and he made the therapist angry. I took him to the pound and left him there. I imagine he's still angry, but, I don't give a damn. Got a new dog. Happiest damn dog I've ever seen.

  10. Dovay Lee profile image40
    Dovay Leeposted 9 years ago

    This is a good question I think. it is unavoidable in life. I think first you should try to know what makes him or her angry. Try your best to calm him or her. Then you can listen to him or her quietly. After all these, when she or he is a little calm, you can tell him or her how to deal with these problem. Getting along well with our spouse is an art. It takes us a  long time to learn. Mutual understanding is also very important.

  11. dianne143 profile image39
    dianne143posted 9 years ago

    Just let it cool and talk to him when he calms down.

  12. philirodje profile image60
    philirodjeposted 9 years ago

    First, I would like to know what happened, why is she angry then i would take it from there. If it is my fault, i would do everything possible to calm her down. but if she is just unnecessarily angry, then we have to talk. but praying for her is as important as discussing the issue with her.


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