Why do we care so much about what other people think of us?

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   HattieMattieMaeposted 14 years ago

   Why do we care so much about what other people think of us?

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   workingmomwmposted 14 years ago

   I care most when I'm feeling insecure about myself. On my secure days, I don't care what anybody thinks!

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   optimus grimlockposted 14 years ago

   for the most part people want to belong so they wonder what other think of them. If there not like they may feel like outcasts and most people would'y like it. I personally don't car I'm me so except it or don't makes no difference to me

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   Daffy Duckposted 14 years ago

   When people say they don't care what others think, they're not entirely truthful.  Everyone does care about th at to some extent.  It's important because everyone needs some cntacts to get by in life.  Whether it be friends, family, buisness associates, or whomever everyone has to care to a certain extent.

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   marellenposted 14 years ago

   I think we all want to be liked by others, it certainly makes me feel good when I know people like and respect me. In society having friends is important, does anyone really want to be alone.

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   evilia_limposted 14 years ago

   I think because everybody wants to be accepted by others. Everybody loves if others fond of him/her.

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   kentuckysloneposted 14 years ago

   In my opinion too many people are overly concerned about what others think about them because they lack self confidence and self esteem. Sure, it is important what others think but only to a certain extent (and that is very little to be truthful)

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   Theresa_Kennedyposted 14 years ago

   I think we care because we're conditioned to, like Pavlov's dogs. It feels good when someone compliments you, and it doesn't feel good when someone trash-talks you.
   
   Obsessing about what others think- good or bad- is not healthy though. We need to be able to put it in perspective.
   
   My favorite quote on this is: "What other people think of you is none of your business" and this blogger has it in a nutshell: http://patriciasingleton.blogspot.com/2 … ou-is.html

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   reeltaulkposted 14 years ago

   For some it confirms that they are worth something.  Don't ask me why or why they would need confirmation from someone who could care less about them, but that's how it goes down....go figure
   
   Vonda G. Nelson

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    Tracy Lynn Conwayposted 14 years ago

    I am working on caring less and less about what people think of me as I feel it is self destructive.  My parents raised me to care more about what they thought since it benefited them and I carried this over into other relationships.

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    Zainejazposted 14 years ago

    Because other people are capable of rewarding or punishing us (whether physically or in their thoughts/actions), especially in a social context.

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