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Why does sex go downhill when marriage happens?

  1. Jangaplanet profile image77
    Jangaplanetposted 7 years ago

    Why does sex go downhill when marriage happens?

  2. MakeEasyCash profile image76
    MakeEasyCashposted 7 years ago

    That is somewhat of an assumption that it always goes down hill eventually. There are methods to keep ones life style active, interesting and fun in that manner. In other words there is always something to explore eg; find a new "knowledgeable" book on sex etc.

  3. lburmaster profile image83
    lburmasterposted 7 years ago

    Not sex completely. Mostly it has to do with age. As the years go by so does our sex life. Note their are certain times we go through more sex than previously but it depends on the person.
    For example, most women like sex more after metapause because they no longer have to worry about getting pregnant.
    However, in marriage the partners can only have sex with each other. Sometimes they get bored. The mystery and interest dims and they try different things. Every couple needs to keep the relationship fresh by trying new things. Not the drastic things like dom's, or whips. (Nasty things). I mean try new positions, different areas, new outfits, etc.

  4. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 7 years ago

    Does it?  A good marriage makes it that much more exciting and meaningful.  It is so much more than a physical response.  Love, commitment, buidling something together--it heightens everything.

  5. Alosea profile image54
    Aloseaposted 7 years ago

    Sex goes downhill when marriage happens if you're with the wrong person.  If you're with the right person, you can never get enough.

  6. onegoodwoman profile image75
    onegoodwomanposted 7 years ago

    "marriage happens"......................I can not    get past this.

    Accidents  happens, fires  happens, life happens.........

    Marriage is an agreement...........to have to hold, to honor, to respect...to accept .......to endure..........

    Marriage does not just " happen", it is mutually agreed upon, ( in my   country anyway)............for  better or   for worse.

    Kids, jobs, laundry, grocery shopping,    cooking., lawn care, gardens, pets and their needs.....bills, oil changes, tire rotations, recyling, going green, protecting the enviroment, homework, calls about work after hours,.............. and still you expect a sex goddess?..................YOU are not ready for the reality of marriage.

  7. cottontail profile image60
    cottontailposted 7 years ago

    It doesn't have to. But, I think if it does it is because the two people have changed their expectations of the relationship and that might impact what happens in the bedroom.

  8. PurvisBobbi44 profile image82
    PurvisBobbi44posted 7 years ago

    Because some couples forget that romance should always be in a marriage to keep it alive and inviting. It doesn't matter how busy you are, a life worth having is one that you invest in. Your investments could be as simple as cooking dinner for each other,or together, even if only one works out of the home. A caress, a smile, a wink, a kiss and a hug, should be a habit for couple. Little things mean a lot more than most couples are aware, because they do not take the time to find out.. Sex will never be a problem, if you don't forget romance.

  9. profile image0
    Jussara Scottonposted 7 years ago

    That's not entirely true, not always the frequency decreases, but the fact is that quality increases.

  10. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

    I call it the "Relax" factor.
    People tend to put more effort into winning over someone's heart than they do to "keep the magic alive".

    Note: "It's easier to maintain a fire than it is to reignite a spark"

    Once a person realizes their mate is truly "emotionally invested" they start to "relax" and slowly stop doing all the things they did to "impress" or win them over.

    In the beginning a person could work a 10 hour day, go to the gym, run errands, and have energy for dating, dancing, and sex...etc People tend to get pumped up about "NEW" things more so than the "tried and true" things.

    Oddly enough if the marriage or relationship ends and they find themselves back in the "dating world" they will go back into the "going the extra mile" mode to attract their next mate.

    It's not uncommon to hear someone proclaim:
    "He/She is not the same person I fell in love with."

    (When we change, our circumstances change.)

    I wrote a  hub about how we treat new relationships.
    http://hubpages.com/hub/relationshipsdo … ebeginning

  11. workingmomwm profile image82
    workingmomwmposted 7 years ago

    My husband and I found that the sex was a lot better once we got married. It's just that, now that we're married, there isn't as much time to do it. Now we have two small children on top of all the responsibilities we once had. So, it's gone "downhill" in quantity, but certainly not quality.