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How does divorce effect kids chances of having faith in marriage?

  1. Elizabeth99 profile image60
    Elizabeth99posted 7 years ago

    How does divorce effect kids chances of having faith in marriage?

    I myself was a kid going through a divorce (7th grade) and find it hard to believe in relationships anymore. Watching the way my parents seemed fine and then suddenly they are no longer together was devastating, and I am now finding when I look back that a lot of my distrust of relationships stems from that.

  2. xkamronx profile image59
    xkamronxposted 7 years ago

    It depends on the person.  I've been through two divorces with my mom, dad, and ex-step dad, and I still can't wait to get married.

    Something many people fail to realize is that sometimes a divorce is the better option.  I know that I wouldn't be who I am today if me and my mother didn't endure what we did.  My brother and I wouldn't be as close as we are either.

    You can't let your parents shape the way your love life will become.  Love is for you, and no one else.  Love is suppose to be selfish in terms of the lovers, or it doesn't work very well.

    It's true that divorce sucks, but sometimes, it's what is best.

  3. independentwriter profile image59
    independentwriterposted 7 years ago

    You can't allow your past to determine your future.  My parents are divorced and remarried to new partners.  They are both happy in their new relationships.  My wife and I have been married almost 11 years and still going strong.  The choice is all up to you.  You have to allow yourself to be happy.

  4. TCM Specialist profile image59
    TCM Specialistposted 7 years ago

    My parents divorced when I was a baby, it has not effected my outlook on marriage. Im a true believer in commitment and everlasting love.

  5. Melanie Trausch profile image60
    Melanie Trauschposted 7 years ago

    It is understandable that you would be hesitant and even timid opening up completely in your relationships. There is an insightful book you might want to check out called 'The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce' by Judith Wallerstein.

    I agree with xkamronx and independentwriter, you shouldn’t let the unfortunate breakup of your parents dissuade you from exploring and enjoying the beautiful journey of a long-term commitment or marriage.

    I too have divorced parents, most of my friends have divorced parents, and even some of my friends are divorced themselves.  Nevertheless, each of us will passionately adhere to the beauty and splendor of connecting with another in a way that requires complete trust and openness, even if it doesn’t last forever.

    I know it might be challenging, however the next time you find yourself in a loving relationship…Don’t think. See.

  6. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

    I believe children of divorce are for the most part not effected when it comes to having faith in marriage. Most adults get married NOT believing their marriage will end in divorce like their parents, friends, or other people they know of whose marriage failed.

    It's very similar to knowing of people who have children born with birth defects, diseases, autism, downs, or whatever.....etc
    (It doesn't stop other people from trying to have babies.)

    I believe it's human nature for us to believe we are "the exception". We expect things to always run smooth in our lives which explains why many of us are "shocked" when bad things actually do happen in our lives.
    We don't tend to dwell on (negative possibilities)!