Would you ditch your significant other if they didn't want kids?
Say you wanted kids,eventually and you found out the person you are dating has no desire to be a parent. Would you dump them?
yes, why waste each others time when in the long run you want different things in life, unless you really love them and decide yourself that kids aren't that important. Good Luck!!
I would try to find out that answer long before I got deeply involved because I very much want to have children. Even if I was deeply involved, I would have to let the relationship go. I respect the right that anyone has to not want to have children and I understand where they are coming from but myself I want to have 2 or 3 kids so why bother continuing when one or both of us will be unhappy? You should be with someone who wants the same things as you when it comes to the major stuff like children.
I wouldn't say I would ditch them, but, it difinetly would be a problem for me. If the person you are dating doesn't want kids, then I would end it nicely.
That would be the smart thing to do! Life is short!
It makes no sense to become emotionally invested in a relationship with someone who does not want what you want. Being "compatible" is the key to any successful relationship.
With over 6 Billion people on the planet the odds are pretty much in your favor that there is more than one person out here that will want the same things you want. Ultimately each of us is looking for someone who will love and accept us as we are. (That includes our mate's point of view. If you can't accept someone the way they are then they are not "the one" for you. We always say "communication" is important in any relationship.
I'd say be thankful they were honest and did not say what you wanted to hear just to keep things going.
The worse thing to do is to try and change another person. Most attempts lead to frustration on one's part and resentment on their mates.
I would try to come to an agreement and compromise. However, if I really, really wanted to have kids over that specific significant other, then I might choose to end the relationship instead of making both of us unhappy.
Yes, I would break up if having kids is ultra-important to me. So if I *really* wanted kids and the person I was dating didn't, then I would end the relationship. It's too big of a thing to disagree on, in my opinion.
I think it would be a potential game-changer to find that out, but I wouldn't reclassify 'significant other' to 'ex' without giving the matter some serious thought first. And, maybe looking into the eyes of some of those parents down at the coffee house who are clearly not as besotted with the idea, now that little Johnny and Jenny have moved from an idealised dream, to a somewhat more challenging reality...
Certainly, if your definition 'significant other' encompasses husband or wife, then I'd be prepared to acknowledge it as something I should have found out before getting hitched, call it "my bad" and look forward to a lifetime of tables for two; with someone I'd still love.
This is a MAJOR thing!
I would know this about a man, long before he became " significant" in my life!
If he fooled or misled me over this, YES, it would be a deal breaker.
Ladies, take some charge and responsibilty here!
You will never endear a man to you by 'trapping' him........move on and do yourself a favor.
I agree that it should be something that is discussed way before it get's too far. However, it's not as though that question pops up on the frist or second date. Therefore, if I found out that I'd hit the road. That would be a deal-breaker where one wants children or at least considers the possibility and the other doesn't.
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