What would you do if your husband chooses to hang on to his ex wife's picture in

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   titobayposted 14 years ago

   What would you do if your husband chooses to hang on to his ex wife's picture in your living room?
   
   If he claims to hang on to it in the interest of his grown and married daughter.

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   twilanelsonposted 14 years ago

   I personally would not mind if the picture is in a photo album, file cabinet etc.  But I am not sure I could handle her picture being displayed in the living room.  I think I would try talking him into saving his precious keepsake in a nice photo album or passing the family keepsake down to his adult daughter, to display and cherish in her living room.

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   point2makeposted 14 years ago

   You could always put "him" and the "picture" out in the garage and let him decide which ONE gets to move back into the house.

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   dashingscorpioposted 14 years ago

   Although it's not mentioned in the question I assume it's not a photo of his wife alone. If it's a picture of his daughter with her mom or of them as a family.... he may mean what he says.
   
   It doesn't sound like he hid the picture to begin with. So how did he become this woman's husband if it bothered her?
   One should not wait until after someone becomes emotionally invovled let alone married to start complaining about something that was always out in the open. Marriage is about loving and accepting someone for who they are, quirks and all. The whole purpose of dating/courting is to find out if you can dea with each other's baggage. Unless the wife has reason to believe her husband is still "in love" with his ex then it's not anymore of an issue today than it was while she was dating him.

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   breathe2travelposted 14 years ago

   Hmmmm.... that's a toughy being that I've never been in that position.  My initial thought is -- if the daughter were still living at home, her bedroom would be appropriate.  But, the daughter is married, grown and living outside of the home?  I don't see the need for the picture, nor do I see it being helpful in his endeavor to cherish and honor his wife --
   
   I think I would express how I felt -- I don't think I'd embrace the idea at all == unless perhaps it's the mom and daughter together in a picture.

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   duffsmomposted 14 years ago

   If their are her children in the home, then the kids should have a picture of their mother around.  Since the child is now an adult and married, I would ask that he remove the picture or give it to her so that you are not uncomfortable with it.
   
   But if you are a secure couple, her picture should not be a threat to you.

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   janikonposted 14 years ago

   I would have a serious problem accepting any excuse for why it was hanging in my living room. He'd go to work and it would end up in a drawer or the garbage depending on how our conversation went concerning it.
   
   Displaying photos of anyones ex when they are in a new relationship is, I find, extremely disrespectful and anyone who doesn't understand that shouldn't be in a NEW relationship.

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   stricktlydatingposted 14 years ago

   I would take it down.  I wouldn't even want a boyfriend to have a picture of his ex in the living room, let alone if I was married.  I can't emagine snuggling up together on the couch and looking up at her picture.  Kids or not, out of respect for your feelings, and the embarrassment it may cause you when you have visitors, the picture should be taken down.

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   titobayposted 14 years ago

   Thanks guys. Actually, the picture is a single picture of the ex and not a family picture. The excuse given for keeping it is that the daughter might feel upset if she comes around and found her mother's picture missing on the wall. Ironically, the daughter does not have her mum's picture on her wall in her marital home.

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    Magdeleneposted 13 years ago

    lawyer up, hit the gym and delete him from Facebook

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