Why do people have issues with their mother-in-law?

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   momsterposted 12 years ago

   Why do people have issues with their mother-in-law?
   
   I love my in-laws. I would never change a thing with our relationships. I dont understand why so many people have problems with their mother-in-law.

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   alahiker28posted 12 years ago

   I wonder if it's because the relationship is usually founded with a defensive position.  Their son or daughter is getting married and on each side, there is a respective fear of losing time to the other.  Being a good mother-in-law takes a lot of patience and understanding, and it must come with a strong sense of security in her relationship with her child.  Things start breaking down when fears and insecurities step in.  And demise is certain when the sons/daughters start taking marital problems to mom. 
   
   In short, it's a very dynamic relationship that depends on a lot of factors for all-around success.  Sounds like you have a strong balance of all the right stuff.

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   TheSmurfposted 12 years ago

   well, my guess is that mother-in-laws want the best for their children, and the husband/wife want to stay with the partner, not its whole family.

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   Daughter Of Maatposted 12 years ago

   My mother-in-law has issues with me. She feels I control her son and I don't let him think for himself. She's overbearing and loves to guilt trip my hubby constantly. She tells him how important medication is for his ADHD (which has caused problems with his teeth among other things) and that she doesn't know why he isn't doing more with his life. She laughs at his beliefs and never takes him seriously about anything. I have a real issue with her because she treats my husband as a child, not the adult he is. Not everyone has wonderful in-laws. Consider yourself very lucky to have such a great relationship with them.

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   lburmasterposted 12 years ago

   Well, there are just some people that if they were you're mother-in-law, you would want to kill them. Think of a lady you dislike. I'm sure you know of one. For me there are too many to count. Luckily, my mother-in-law is not one of them. However, my mother-in-law does need a hit in the head every once in a while so she won't cheat on her boyfriend or stalk him again.

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   Mmargie1966posted 12 years ago

   Do you get along with your mother-in-law?  Here are some helpful hints, and lots of giggles. read more

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   tigerbaby777posted 12 years ago

   Where to begin.......First let me say I'm happy for you that you got a good one.
   
   My EX mother in law once called me and told me she was the MONARCH of the family and that all holidays would be spent in her cabin up in the mountains.  That didn't work for me because I had my own mom.  I can see splitting the day up but I wasn't going to give up my family.
   
   Then when we did go to the cabin in the woods she would stroke my husbands hair and shoulders and ask me if I was jealous?!  It made me sick!
   
   Not normal, not normal at all.

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   YvetteParkerposted 12 years ago

   Mothers, more so than fathers, tend to be very attached to our sons and have difficulty making the necessary adjustments to our relationships with our sons to adequately and peaceably make room for the new daughter. I've already told my youngest son, who is single, unattached, and will turn 22 in a couple of months, that his bride and I will be scrapping all the way down the aisle to the altar!!!! lol!!! O course, I wouldn't do that! I love my son too much to mistreat someone that he loved enough to call his wife. I had a wonderful mother-in-law (now deceased) who loved me and treated me like a daughter and will do the same for my future daughter when that time comes.

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   Sky9106posted 12 years ago

   There should be no getting angry or getting away with the in laws basically the mother.
   Here is what, anyone who at first sight or first meeting don't like or can't get along  with the mother. That a huge red flag that anyone male or female, should see and immediately take care of.
   There will be none of that what soever. With serious and mature adults a, they can be no reason for it . The reason would be either of you not the mother.
   
   I am glad that you got it momster. Growing up was your practice, and experience , no get it straight before bringing handsome or pretty home to mama. Save her that which you already know, maker mama the special lady she is booth of you. Come to mama with your understanding not you differences. She's not a referee.. 
   
   When a person is giving you trouble, they are automatically going to give all around you trouble , because their approach won't be correct to your family, your family don't have control over that, When you are right everything about you is right. Then come with that glowing meaningful truth to mama.
   
   Bless.

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    Deepak Chaturvediposted 12 years ago

    It depends on the faith which comes from both sides.As these it is the combination of three words-mother-in-law if one takes it as a mother then life goes smooth and relationship bulids.When mother in-law tries to interfere in pitty issues of said couple no one feels good.

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    Globetrekkermelposted 12 years ago

    I have been lucky, I am gifted with the best mother in law ( and I mean it) in the whole wide world. My MOM( my mother in law) is like Mother Teresa. It is incredible. A lot of couples have mother in law issues, but my Mom( mother in law) is the best and I couldn't ask for more. She treats me like a real daughter who came from her womb and she already has 4 daughters (my sisters in law).she is a very amazing woman-and I am really proud to have her as my mother in law. Love you, MOM!!

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