Is there life and hope after infidelity?

Jump to Last Post 1-5 of 5 discussions (5 posts)
  1. tperkins-tyler profile image60
    tperkins-tylerposted 7 years ago

    Is there life and hope after infidelity?

  2. Stephiliboo profile image58
    Stephilibooposted 7 years ago

    It depends... One night stand? or Affair? One night stand(with some women)= 50% chance of hope ...Affair=Pack your bags

  3. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

    Like most things it depends on the circumstances.
    Assuming the person was "caught" it's been said that  women forgive easier than men. It also matters who their mate cheated with (a family member of the spouse, close friend, on going affair, one night stand, prostitute/escort, someone of the same sex while being in a hetrosexual relationship...etc)

    Everyone has their own "deal breakers". For some people the thought of someone  they love lying to them while having sex with others and possibly putting them at risk for STDs or bringing a child into the world is too much for them to overlook. They simply can't get the picture out of their mind nor stop thinking about how the cheater made a fool out of them.

    Forgiveness is easier to offer when the person who was cheated on actually takes ownership in possibly neglecting their mate in some way (not having sex for several weeks at a time, verbal/mental or physical abuse, emotionally distant)

    However even in situations where both people roll up their sleeves and work hard to get back on track there will be lots of challenges. The cheater must show contrition and be willing to live an "open book" lifestyle for as long as it takes their mate to regain trust. Their mate has to refrain from throwing the cheating incident in the cheater's face. A good therapist may be of help to get to the bottom of issues that led to the betrayal.

    Last but not least the person who was betrayed has to be willing to tell their friends, family, co-workers, and whomever else that knows about the betrayal to "Shut up!" It's difficult enough to rebuild trust without other people placing doubts in your head over every tiny issue that arises. Some couple have actually been known to claim their relationships became stronger after the affair.

  4. Ayse profile image57
    Ayseposted 7 years ago

    Depends.  Did the person cheating have a drunk evening or flat out had a love affair?  Drunk cheat, possibly but a love affair, those wounds will never heal as long as you stay together.


  5. shannajs profile image59
    shannajsposted 7 years ago

    I think it depends on the situation, and the relationship between the two. I think that if they've made a true committed relationship, they should first make the effort to achieve forgiveness and trust again. I think this also depends on if there are kids involved and whether staying together will be damaging to emotional and psychological well being of the individuals involved. I also feel that the less people that are told, will make it better. If too many people find out about it, I think that can add much unneeded stress and strain on the relationship. Involving other people (like family and friends), other than those who are trained to deal with these sort of things, will only add the feeling of "I'm right, you're wrong". Overall it depends on the well being of all those involved.


This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

Show Details
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)