Open Marriages and Open relationships are they good or bad?

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   Paxxon Brownposted 13 years ago

   Open Marriages and Open relationships are they good or bad?

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   lockgirlposted 13 years ago

   I think if you want to see other people then don't get married. Open marriages and/or relationships are a cop-out . If you are truly in love with your partner then there should be no need to find outside relationships.

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   Dawn the Chipposted 13 years ago

   I think that if people need to be in open relationships/marriage, its either because they are not suited to each other, and so they shouldn't get married, or in an open relationship it may be a case of wanting to have your cake and eat it, if both people want that then its OK, but if one wants it and the other is going along with it cause its better than losing the one they love, then that's a different answer all together.

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   Paxxon Brownposted 13 years ago

   With Will and Jada Smith's apparent separation I thought this might be a good topic of discussion.

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   Giselle Maineposted 13 years ago

   I think it's a bad idea.  Why? Because even a monogamous relationship has ups and downs and gets complicated.  Therefore imagine how much more complicated (and therefore less chance of success) it can get when more people are involved!

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   dashingscorpioposted 13 years ago

   If BOTH people involved want something then it's good.
   However if only one "really" wants it and the other is going along to "apease" them it's probably bad. In the big scheme of things there really is no "right' or "wrong" only "agree" and "disagree". Personally it would not work for me but I try not to judge others. "Life is a personal journey". To each his own.
   Ultimately everyone is looking for someone who agrees with them. (On major things)

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   NaturalHairGrowsposted 13 years ago

   First, I'll say they're bad, and then I'll just say that they're not relationships. If you're single, you can be open to all the options that are out there for you, but when you decide to be in a relationship, that changes. Relationship means that person is different from all your other "options" out there. If you don't feel that way about them,  don't call it a relationship.
   
   And for the few people, I've seen declare that they were in an open relationship, it didn't last long because one of them eventually catches stronger feelings than the other which causes an emotional meltdown in the long run. They begin to feel hurt that their partner could find happiness with people other than themselves. So moral of the story...just don't get into an open relationship or marriage.

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   vicki5897posted 13 years ago

   I think open relationships and marriages are degrading to the person. It isn't a relationship at all if it is "open." What's the point in calling it a relationship when it isn't between 2 people? I think open marriages and things of that sort devalues everything a relationship should offer.

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   Globetrekkermelposted 12 years ago

   This question should be answered by parties already practicing this arrangement.Until you have experienced such an arrangement , it is doubful if you can give an honest opinion on the matter. I cannot answer this question because I am not in such an arrangement and I doubt I will be.

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    ReneeDC1979posted 12 years ago

    I say no Paxxon Brown.  If you are free to be with and do whatever you want with someone else, how do you call what you have with someone a relationship.  Either you're going to be with one person, or you're dating.

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