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What do you believe is lacking in relationships today?

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Trevor Davisposted 6 years ago
What do you believe is lacking in relationships today?

All opinions are welcome
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Lord De Crossposted 6 years ago
TRUST AND TRUTH COMMITMENT,
Couples today are more like room mates, and not lovers who deseve each one as they are
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Seeker7posted 6 years ago
I think with some couples - certainly not all of them - there is too much take and not enough giving. There is also a lack of acceptance of the kind of person a partner is - I've seen a few couples where one is trying to change their partner to fit in with an ideal rather than just accepting them for who they are.

Also, even when in a long-term relationship or marriage, people still need time to have their own interests and at times perhaps their own space. I think there is also with some relationships a real problem about couples not really knowing each other that well - having time to really talk to each other, even for just a short time each day, is beneficial for both.
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dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago
Two major things I see missing often are Honesty and people NOT being their "authentic self" right from the start. If someone says "yes" to everything you suggest you easily become lulled into believing you've met your "soulmate".
Years down the road you find out they hated the activity and only said "yes" because they thought you were "hot" or they did not want to risk losing a chance to be with you.

Too many times people tend to bend over backwards to "impress" their (would be mates) early on. After there is an emotional investment they revert back to their "normal selves". Thus you hear the old cliche "He/She is not the same person I fell in love with" The truth is they never were that person to begin with!

Awhile back I wrote a hub asking "Do we save our best for the beginning?" http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … ebeginning

It's important to invest a great deal of time getting to know someone before you become "emotionally involved". If you don't then you will find yourself putting up with stuff you never thought you would in hopes for a change that's never going to happen. You also need to do some "introspective thinking" to determine what you want and need from a mate BEFORE you select one. Flying by the seat of your pants will most likely lead to disaster. Chemistry can lead to impulsive decisions. Always use your mind when making decisions for your heart.

Always be yourself and let the chips fall where they may!
Ultimately we're all looking for someone who will love us for who we are.
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ubanichijiokeposted 6 years ago
Almost 95% of relationships lack trust and faithfulness. This is because many couples enjoy cheating and flirting.
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Ancillottiposted 6 years ago
I think what's missing in relationships today is complicity. With complicity to build confidence and stands a true love relationship or friendship.
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Kawaljit kaurposted 6 years ago
My thinking is that trust, faith in each other is lacking in relationships these days. Everyone feels that whatever he or she does is right. In a lust to achieve everything in life, most of us make the life miserable. It makes us impatient. We don't give time to relationships but expect everything from others. But with the feeling that we are right, we keep on ignoring the demand of the relationships. Every relationship demands something but taking the relationships for guaranteed fades away it charm.
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stricktlydatingposted 6 years ago
When it comes to dating, I think there's a lack of committment to the new relationship from the start. Generally speaking, my date may be dating others and not think much of it since he isn't in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship at this point. He may also have Facebook friends he comes home and flirts with after we've been out on a date, he might have female friends he spends time with during the week etc...
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