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Do people change after they marry?

  1. lyns profile image71
    lynsposted 6 years ago

    Do people change after they marry?

    If you think so, why? and do they get better or worse?

  2. VENZKHVAM profile image59
    VENZKHVAMposted 6 years ago

    yes 100% they all change.

    It is only till the time some one is not yours you are exited. But the moment you know that she sis yours, then the complacency creeps in.

  3. ubanichijioke profile image77
    ubanichijiokeposted 6 years ago

    Yes they do. It is just like what happens when you re growing up, you meet different situations, circumstances, events, people and different characters, minds and behaviors. So passing through this phase either shape the individual's life either for good or bad.

  4. asmaiftikhar profile image78
    asmaiftikharposted 6 years ago

    After getting marry people do not change but circumstances change so thats why people try to mold their selves in the new molder of life.

  5. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    Unfortunately they do. What usually happens is what I call the "relax" or "Mission Accomplished" scenario. After someone has gotten married they often (stop) doing the things that won the heart of their mate!
    Many began to take their spouse for granted, become less considerate, and less affectionate under the guise that marriage means he or she is not going anywhere. Initially their mate may go with the flow or attempt to go along to get along. This leads to tension and stress build up. It's not uncommon to hear someone say, "He or She is not the same person I fell in love with."

    When you think about it that's kind of a ridiculous way to think. Just because you got the job doesn't mean others stop sending in their resumes. With a divorce rate at 50% and infidelity on the rise it's clear that no one is "stuck" with anyone. It's important to remember everyone has "options" and marriage is an "at will contract." One should never stop trying to impress their spouse!

    Awhile back I expressed my take on commitment with the following hub.
    http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … forgranted

    Marriage is a garden which has to be nurtured or it will die. As the old saying goes, "The same thing it took to get your baby is the same thing it's going to take to keep them."
    The wedding is just one day. Marriage is a marathon for life. There is no finish line.

  6. wychic profile image90
    wychicposted 6 years ago

    There are two ways people change after they get married. One, they start being themselves much more freely -- while dating, many people try to hide more unsavory parts of themselves (or what they feel are faults) to try to appear as good as they can to their partner. The second way is the way in which all people change -- our personalities and character are not static, they're dynamic, and everything that happens in life will affect that. For many couples, this fact brings them closer together if they work through these life happenings together -- others are torn apart because they're not standing together and communicating through it. It's true that you can't change other people, but people are constantly changing themselves, often without even realizing it.

  7. lyns profile image71
    lynsposted 6 years ago

    This is so very well said and true, thank you