Would you ever ask someone, "Where is this relationship going"?

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   brakel2posted 13 years ago

   Would you ever ask someone, "Where is this relationship going"?
   
   Under what circumstances?

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   dashingscorpioposted 13 years ago

   No, I would never ask that question. Of course my guess is not many men ever do. It's a cowardly way to get the other person to state how they feel about things without having to say how YOU feel. Generally actions speak louder than words. If one reaches a point where they want an exclusive relationship with someone they should say so rather than "waiting" or looking for clues from the other person. You can't be afraid of scaring someone off. The sooner you know where you stand the better. You don't want to allow yoursel to become too emotionally invested only to learn the person you want an exclusive relationship with doesn't want to have one with you. By the same token you want to take some time to get know them yourself before you decide you want an exclusive relationship. Too many people these days aren't willing to invest the time it takes to really get to know someone!

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   OutsideTheLinesposted 13 years ago

   There always comes the time when you have to DTR(define the relationship). How soon you do this is crucial though as to not completely scare someone off. Everyone should know where they stand with their significant other otherwise people get hurt,vthey get disappointed, and they waste their valuable time.

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   Hauntyposted 13 years ago

   I actually think it's an essential question to ask. It's best to determine the outcome of your relationship for both you and your partner. Otherwise how would you know what it is that you two want from it, if it's the same thing, if it can be done together, etc?

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   ambassadornchainsposted 13 years ago

   There is no point in investing your heart and time and life experiences into someone who is leaving soon to only leave you broken-hearted when you COULD be sharing those experiences, time, and love with the person you are actually going to spend the rest of your life with.  Every piece of your heart you give away to someone else is just one broken piece missing you can't give and share with your true love. If you expect something serious, discuss your intentions together.  You have the right to ask them so you know what to expect and where your relationship is headed.  If that makes them leave, it's less worry and decision-making for you and allows you to move on with your life.  The longer you're in a relationship, the longer the healing process and the harder it is to move on if you end it.
   
   No mater what happens, though, one bit of advice.  NEVER SETTLE.  Know your worth and don't settle for less than you deserve.

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   brakel2posted 13 years ago

   I am doing a hub on this topic and will use your answers. No names if that's ok. Thanks for good responses.

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   Eric Pradoposted 13 years ago

   I would. I have. Simply because it is important to communicate in any relationship. Without communication, there is only assumption and that can almost never be good.

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