After a heated argument where feelings are hurt, is it your right to say no to s

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  1. MissJamieD profile image54
    MissJamieDposted 11 years ago

    After a heated argument where feelings are hurt, is it your right to say no to sex when married?

    After a heated argument with your partner, do they expect sex even though you obviously don't? Is it necessary to do what your partner wants or what you want? There has to be give and take in a relationship but I believe that your body is your temple, you can use it as you wish. How does this work in your personal relationships? I don't need details, just opinions please:)

  2. OutsideTheLines profile image61
    OutsideTheLinesposted 11 years ago

    When married your body is given to that other person. It goes both ways. In a healthy relationship make-up sex usually comes with the package, but I don't believe in someone doing something they don't want to do.

  3. Seeker7 profile image86
    Seeker7posted 11 years ago

    I agree with you that nobody should ever have to participate in sex unless they want to - your body is yours and yours alone, no one else has a say in the matter.

    However, I think it's wrong to use sex - or lack of it - as a way to get back at someone. That is one sure fire way to destroy a relationship.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

    Your body is always yours to do with whatever you please.
    However it must be remembered that the underlying principle of monogamy is neither you or your mate will have sex with others (because you have taken a vow to fulfill each other's needs in that arena). One of the top reasons given for cheating is a spouse will not have sex with their mate for prolonged periods. Marriage is tough enough without using sex as a "reward/punishment" tool to control your partner.

    Personally I don't believe you can go from trying to destroy one another to becoming passionate lovers (within 10 minutes). Awhile back I wrote a hub about this. Many  people buy into the immediate "make up sex" being a great thing. … horreality

    I on the other hand believe it may take up to a couple of days to put a "fight" behind me. I think it's important to feel the fight/argument has been resolved before you can make up. It also doesn't hurt to go through more of a "seduction" process as oppose to whatever your normal approach would be. Making up usually involves both parties apologizing for how they exploded or communicated their thoughts. It doesn't mean you have agree that one person was right and the other was wrong about the subject. You just want to agree that it was wrong the way you treated each other.

  5. Rob Winters profile image80
    Rob Wintersposted 11 years ago

    Whilst people may have sex on occassion for the purposes of placing anothers needs or desires above their own immediate desires it should still always be a consentual decision.It is absolutely always your right to say no to sex whether you're married or not.

  6. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 11 years ago

    It is your right in the marriage to say no to sex regardless of the reason--for both partners.  Sex used to be referred to as making love for a reason.  Who wants to be intimate until all the hubbub is settled?

    To save hurt feelings one might explain that while the argument is over, they just don't feel like being intimate at that time but reassure the spouse that everything is okay.

    A good relationship is all about compromise and if one does not want to have sex, the other person should love them enough not to want to force the issue.  Understanding goes a long way.

    1. artist101 profile image47
      artist101posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Great answer!! It should be that persons right, no matter the issue, be it money, sex, or what ever  issue is that arises. Being married is compromise, give, and take on both sides. I think they call that Equality, Right?

  7. Levertis Steele profile image80
    Levertis Steeleposted 10 years ago

    Anyone who does not have a right to say "No" to sex is a slave. Whose body is it? The nature of the argument has to be considered. If the argument was about a huband's statement that the wife's spaghetti was not tasty, and he said it nicely, she should get over it and get a recipe book. If the argument was about him getting caught cheating, yes, he should wait and get that AIDS test first. Put him on probation, too. Spouses should respect each other's rights.

  8. Attikos profile image77
    Attikosposted 10 years ago

    It is your right, but it's such a good way to make up and get past the dispute, why would you?

    1. artist101 profile image47
      artist101posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      We as women, are not able to separate feelings from sex, if her feelings are stomped on, with no resolution, then it is not possible for her to perform. It just isn't possible for a woman, not an excuse, a reality. Our emotional wellbeing is involved

  9. Globetrekkermel profile image63
    Globetrekkermelposted 10 years ago

    HA HA HA !!! We don't engage in  heated arguments at all.There are times when we disagree and we give each other the silent treatment which does not last very long.I love the hugging and the tenderness though after we have talked about the disagreement and each one of us has apologized to each other.That does not require sex, LOL! hugging is good .Love it. LOL! Better than sex !!!! lol!


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