Do you think God cares if you have sex outside of marriage? Yes or no and why?

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  1. MissMelissaK profile image77
    MissMelissaKposted 10 years ago

    Do you think God cares if you have sex outside of marriage?  Yes or no and why?

    The reason I ask is because it is clearly stated in the Bible that sex outside of marriage is wrong, but today it's twisted by those who claim God wants us to be fruitful and multiply so sex is not a sin or that adultery pertains only to married people so single Christians can do it.  One Christian boldly stated "It's not like you're going to burn in hell."  And a pastor recently stated that faith is not about being "good".  If you read Romans Chapter 2, it's very important to be good and obedient to God.  So many different takes on faith that it can definitely turn into a slippery slope.

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    Rayne123posted 10 years ago

    I think God cares about every commandment not taken seriously, however the world has changed drastically and so have the days and times since Jesus was around.

    I think it is more important to God and the people involved actually that they are faithful and keep peace. I believe the bible was more adamant about adultery

    There are so many people living together, having sexual fantasies, married to more than one woman, threesomes and such, that the punishment is not severe has it was "back in the day". I am not saying God lets it slip away, I believe that they are actually falling in their own pit without even realizing it. We all know that a cheater always gets caught, they slip up, and then it spirals into even more drastic events.

    God knows those that sin will slip up and that is what he lets be, they .suffer the consequences of their own actions.

    When I say he (God) lets it be, I just mean that he leads them to the consequences that come from their own actions. So I really think the sin does not go without punishment in reality. No one is really happy in the long run. Then a lot of times to further complicate things, other relationships they may have in the future may suffer in the same way the prior ones did.

    These men that marry more than one woman is very wrong to me, however those in the relationship obviously agree with it. However it is a sin and sooner or later there will be at least one woman who becomes jealous or wants out and once again it just spirals from there. These kind of relationships never go smooth, nor are they really healthy,  in reality we never know what goes on behind closed doors.

    I dont believe the consequence for this sin is something drastic in the hands of the Lord, but I do believe as I mentioned they are led to a non healthy relationship to suffer for themselves.

    Have a good day

    1. MissMelissaK profile image77
      MissMelissaKposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Well said.  I'm not perfect, but the closer I get to God, I feel that its very wrong.  God calls us to be good and obedient.  If you slip up, and repent that's one thing, but if you sin as if it didn't matter because Jesus has you covered, that's sad

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      Norine Williamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I think it VERY serious when God said "..fornicators will NOT inherit the Kingdom of God."  Lk 12:47 says if we "..KNEW his lord's will, neither did according to his will, shall be beaten with MANY stripes!"  Here r the consequences n this methaph!

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    JThomp42posted 10 years ago

    Is fornication a sin? Yes. If you are a child of God and have sex, will you go to hell? No. We all sin and come short of the glory of God daily. The flesh will continue to sin although the soul is covered in the blood of Christ forever. Yet, we should strive to do what the Bible tells us to do what is right daily.

    1. MissMelissaK profile image77
      MissMelissaKposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      So for those Christians who have sex outside of marriage with no repentance, the blood of Christ covers them? So basically, you can sin with ease and be rest assured knowing you'll be saved by Jesus? Really? No call for obedience?

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      JThomp42posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Melissa, You need to read my last sentence again.

    3. CraftytotheCore profile image75
      CraftytotheCoreposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      1 John 1:9  If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (King James Version).  I think that's what you were saying J Thomp?

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      JThomp42posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Yes. Thank you Crafty.

    5. MissMelissaK profile image77
      MissMelissaKposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I got yah. My apologies JThomp42.  I reread the last sentence.

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      JThomp42posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      smile Thank you

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      Norine Williamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      According to I Cor 6:18-19 We sin against our own body when fornicating!  V 15 asks "Do we know that your bodies are the members of Christ?"  If true, what are we doing to Christ when fornicating or committing adultery? Leaving Him at home while we

  4. Billie Kelpin profile image84
    Billie Kelpinposted 10 years ago

    Unfortunately, I believed whole hearted-ly in abstinence as taught by the Catholic church in the 60s.  I'm 68 years old and regret to this day that my first husband and I married because of that belief.  We were deeply in love, but really didn't know each other. We were left with only one option. It was in wartime. He was in Vietnam.  He was coming home at Christmas and we knew we couldn't wait to be with each other, so we married. Ironically one priest actually advised us AGAINST marrying at that point and told us that "we marry each other" - the ceremony is for the community.  He added that if he had had an apartment, he would let us have it over "Tim's" Christmas leave. The priest knew that neither of us knew each other well enough and that we nevertheless were so in love that we wouldn't be able to stop.  I had considered running away during Tim's Christmas leave.  Instead, Tim called from the base before being deployed and said, "Let's get married at Christmas."  We threw together a wedding in 9 days.  I think during the whole marriage, he, not I, felt it had been a mistake and when he turned 40, Tim  left our family.  The tragedy of that and the trickle down effect would certainly have displeased a loving God.  Had we NOT gotten married THEN, we would have gotten married after he returned home, I'm sure.  The difference?  We would have felt it was our choice and we would have been much better prepared for life together. I think we would have had a stronger foundation to withstand what happened to him when he turned 40. I say this with reluctance because I'm fully aware that I will be offending people with this response.  I know too that every person has to follow his or her conscience.  But sometimes, when we're young, we see things through a filtered lens.  It's good to ask the question and ponder the responses rather than to leave that question unanswered in your mind.

    1. MissMelissaK profile image77
      MissMelissaKposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your honesty.  I am not offended.  I also chose my path to abstain and when I met the man I felt was the ONE and gave in, he dumped me shortly thereafter and left me BITTER.  He married the very next girl he met a few months after me. :

    2. Billie Kelpin profile image84
      Billie Kelpinposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Ah, so the important part is choosing a good man - either way!  Bitter goes away and transforms with time.  At the very least, it gives you grist for the writing mill, so to speak smile   Lovely Wishes to you, Melissa

    3. MissMelissaK profile image77
      MissMelissaKposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      You are correct Billie.  The tincture of time has healed my wound but it will never wipe away the lesson I got from that experience.  It was pure HELL to have someone you felt was amazing, to up and leave like you were nothing. sad

    4. Billie Kelpin profile image84
      Billie Kelpinposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      or someone who lived with you for 20 years that you felt was amazing, "up and leave like you were nothing" I know EXACTLY the feeling.  Surprisingly the cause rarely has anything to do with YOU.

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      Norine Williamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Ladies: None of this would have happened if you would have been IN THE LORD & God had joined marriages together rather than ourselves! 

      When young, lust abounds! When GOD joins man together man CAN NOT put asunder! So says Scripture!

  5. junkseller profile image82
    junksellerposted 10 years ago

    The Bible clearly says a lot of things that our modern social sensibilities no longer abide. I suspect that what God would really want is for people to honor one another. Once upon a time that might have meant marrying before establishing a sexual relationship, that is no longer the case. I know many unmarried couples who treat each other as kings and queens, and plenty of married couples who treat each other like garbage. It isn't a magic switch, and considering how high the divorce rate is in this country (even amongst Christians) it would seem to suggest that the institution just doesn't fit with our modern society. Our time is better spent trying to honor the people around us than it is in obeying 2,000 year old rules.

    So my answer is no, I think God gave us the equipment he did for a reason and wants us to bang it out as often and as frequently as we can (within the context of health and happiness, of course).

    1. peeples profile image94
      peeplesposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I LOVE this answer!!!

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      Norine Williamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      The WORLD would love this answer!

  6. tlmcgaa70 profile image61
    tlmcgaa70posted 10 years ago

    to your question "do you think GOD cares if you have sex outside of marriage"? my answer is yes, HE does. to many people seem to consider GODs laws as changing with the times. everyone does it, and no one is being stoned, so it must be ok. however, GOD does not change and neither do HIS laws. man has changed, for the worse, if you ask the end, we all of us must stand before GOD. doing anything the bible tells us not to do is a sin, no matter how we want to see it. if we say we love GOD and do not obey HIM, the truth is not in us. we can sugar coat or justify anything we want to do, but it doenst make it right. we can steal bread to feed our family, and feel justified in doing it, but stealing is still wrong. if we had true faith in GOD stealing would not be needful.

    Proverbs 30:8-9
    King James Version (KJV)
    8 Remove far from me vanity and lies: give me neither poverty nor riches; feed me with food convenient for me:

    9 Lest I be full, and deny thee, and say, Who is the Lord? or lest I be poor, and steal, and take the name of my God in vain.

    taking the name of GOD in vain is not some swear is claiming to be a child of GOD and not obeying HIM. not having faith and doing what HE says we should not do.

    1. MissMelissaK profile image77
      MissMelissaKposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Wow! Very true and refreshing!  God is the same today, yesterday and tomorrow.  He never changes!!  It's true if we say we love God and do not obey him, the truth is not in us.  Jesus even said he will spit out lukewarm followers.1 John 2:15-16  ESV

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      Norine Williamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I Agree tlmcgaa! "We can sugar coat or justify anything we want to do, but it doenst make it right."  His WORD will NOT chg to justify our way of life!   Make sure ur marriage has been "joined together by God," & HOLY-ONLY IN THE LORD! I Cor 7:39

  7. taburkett profile image59
    taburkettposted 10 years ago

    I believe that God cares.  But due to His forgiveness doctrine, I believe that this sin can be forgiven.  It is the individual who must choose wisely when encountering this situation because it is the individual who must decide if they are willing to chance the sin and forgiveness.
    Mankind has always struggled with the "guilt of sin" because many have not understood the "forgiveness doctrine".  Jesus taught that we must live correctly if we are to gain our place in Heaven.  However, by this, God did not demand perfection, but that we accept Jesus Christ as the path to eternity.
    Individuals that sin in this fashion often barter their attitudes with other sinners.  This permits them to speculate that it is not a worrisome sin.  However, the struggles it can produce often lead to many worries as the risk for loss of salvation rises.  This is due to the persistent speculation concerning other sins that seem too easy to commit as well, e.g. lying, stealing, cheating, etc.
    Society is plagued with multiple speculations where normally faithful individuals relinquish their morals to some part-time activity leading to sin.  Children today are exposed to these sinning speculations through unrestricted mobile media bantered as entertainment.
    When one turns away from righteousness outlined in the words of the Creator, then the Creator turns away from them.  This is the risk that is taken by every sinner regardless of the desired concern.

    1. MissMelissaK profile image77
      MissMelissaKposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Excellent! The enemy finds every crack and crevice in our day to day lives to destroy us.  All it takes is one "sin", big or small, to do a lot of damage with severe consequences.  Staying in God's Word on a daily basis is very important!

  8. DDE profile image45
    DDEposted 10 years ago

    Sex outside a marriage is so twisted sleeping with someone else while still married is totally wrong I am against it

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      Norine Williamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      And so is GOD!

  9. Eunice Stuhlhofer profile image59
    Eunice Stuhlhoferposted 10 years ago

    Sex outside marriage was never God's plan and will never be, because marriage is a holy covenant, and those who practice sex outside marriage dishonor God. The other problem is the issue of unholy soul ties that come as a result of such unions. When one is finally married, those ties aren't broken and wreck havoc, spiritually speaking. It's not the physical that's important but the spiritual which is more real than what we see with our eyes. Fornication is a spirit and not merely a practice. If I was given a new chance, I'd abstain til marriage.

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      Norine Williamsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      "It's not the physical that's important but the spiritual which is more real than what we see with our eyes." Amen!  "Do you not know that fornicators will not inherit the kingdom of God?" I Cor 6:9

  10. PoeticFailosophy profile image57
    PoeticFailosophyposted 9 years ago

    God had sex with Mary outside of marriage, so I don't see what the big deal is.

  11. wingedcentaur profile image66
    wingedcentaurposted 9 years ago

    Hi MissMelissaK! How's it going?

    Even though you asked this question nine months ago, I see, if anyone's interested, I thought I'd take a shot at addressing it. Now, I am not a Biblical scholar but...
    1) I would imagine that it is hard for human beings to imagine what 'God' 'cares' about, given what one presumes to be vast differences in Beinghood, knowledge, and all that....

    2) Isn't it true that the Bible (which doesn't really see itself as a book, but is more like a compilation of short stories by old men separated from the events they tell by centuries, and centuries from each other)?

    3) Isn't it true that the only part of the Bible that actually claims to be revealed by 'God' is the Ten Commandments brought down from that mountain by Moses? I'll come back to this point.

    4) You mentioned God's command to 'be fruitful and multiply.' Assuming, for the sake of discussion, we are taking the book as a coherent book: Isn't that from the Book of Genesis. As the story is told, wasn't humankind a rather new species on the Earth at that time, you know, with Adam and Eve and all that?

    5) If point number 4 is true, then shouldn't we understand 'God's' command to 'be fruitful and multiply,' as 'His' way of, kind of , giving the new species a kind of 'kick start,' if you will; and not a particular piece of jargon to be taken with any degree of profundity thereafter?

    6) I guess adultery is one of the commandments. However, with Moses and the band he was leading out of Egypt, across the desert and into the Promised Land, and all that, we are talking about 'God's' supposedly 'chosen people,' the Jews. My question is: Are we sure that 'God' wasn't specifically addressing the Jews? Are we sure that 'He' wasn't specifically concerned with their survival as a distinct people at the time? Isn't it true that King Solomon caught some flak for marrying a number of foreign princesses; and that the concern was the impact that their influence may or may not have had on traditional Jewish practices?

    I was just wondering. Thanks!


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