This is not a yes or no type question. It really depends in the circumstances. For instance how long was the relationship? How deep was the relationship? Why did it break up? Was it jealousy issues? If so then I think being friends would be difficult. You don't have to be friends but you can still care for your ex, there is no rule on that. There are many success stories out there where exes have become great friends but there's just as many horror stories too. It really does depend on the situation and all the variables that go into it.
I'm very blessed to say that my ex husband is one of my best friends. We grew up together, became high school sweethearts, and then married after graduation. It sounds enchanting in writing, but I know it played a huge factor in our separation. We didn't fight or argue, but we literally ran out of things to talk about, and became more of best friends after a while. Don't get me wrong, we still have our moments where we sometimes become ill with the other, but we both know it's only because we still care.
So my vote is yes, I think exes can stay friends if they both wish too.
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It depends on the people invovled and the situation.
Sometimes an ex wants more than friendship but is willing to "settle" for it with the hope of one day starting over again. Beware of the "instant friendship"
Generally speaking it's rare to go from being "red hot lovers" to plantonic friends overnight. What usually happens is there is a gap of time where there is little if any contact and one day you bump into one another after you have both moved on. There is some polite conversation and "gradually" a friendship develops.
You don't want to become to emotionally invested in a friendship with an ex because things can change dramatically once one or both of you become involved with other people. If a person is "uncomfortable" with her or his mate being "friends" with their ex it's not uncommon for the ex to create some distance in order to maintain their happy relationship/marriage. Love trumps friendship most of the time!
If you have children together, it's important for exes to remain friends at least cordial to one another.
If no kids are involved, I think it's best to have a clean, but pleasant split without maintaining communication. It's way too complex to have a relationship with an ex when you're dating someone new. It's not fair to either person in the relationship.
by Michael Valencia 5 years ago
If you are in a relationship, do you think it is OK to be friends with your exes?
by MissJamieD 5 years ago
How do you get along with your ex?
by Joana e Bruno 6 years ago
Is it possible for exes to be friends?
by dianne143 8 years ago
what was your experiences cos i am not in good terms with my ex. And if ever I see him I would run away so he won't see me cos I don't want.
by Stu 6 years ago
I have always wondered how people cope with their significant other remaining very good friends with one of their exes? Thoughts?
by afrykanqwin 4 years ago
What does it mean when your ex wants to remain friends?My ex wanted us to be best friends but i...told him if he is dating someone else then she should be his best friend.
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