Ugh men

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   Meliloves2writeposted 15 years ago

   So here is the story, I was with my boyfriend of 3 months which is not very long... I know but we said I love you to each other and I truly meant it at the time. So Im in this play and one of the actors is really attractive and we have this huge amazing connection. We started to sneak behind my boyfriend back but nothing serious like sex!!!! He told me that If i dont dump my boyfriend than I will loose him because he really liked me and wanted to me take a chance on him, so finally I dumped my boyfriend and me and this guy had an amazing night of just talking and being so comfortable around each other. The next day he tells me there is another girl that he met and his feelings for her are stronger than what he feels for me.... but at the same time he told me he loves me and cant be alone around me because I tempt him and he is afraid, but now I feel all alone because I lost two guys at once but I dont want to move on because I want the guy back! Help! what should I do?

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   Colebabieposted 15 years ago

   Ok. If you really loved the first guy you wouldn't have broken up with him to try it out with the actor. You could try to get back with the first guy, but if he says no, could you really blame him?
   
   I say move on. Learn from your mistake

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      geminimoonposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I agree!

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      iluvdj0612`posted 15 years agoin reply to this

      well, you could have kept the first guy. this second guy might have just played around and didnt know what he likes at first. hi might have used u to cover up loneliness and failure from the past and now that he has seen someone else whom he feels stronger feelings he dumped u like what you did with the first guy.rule is sometimes whatever u did will goes back to u...it is sad! bad guy! he should have not dumped a girl like who is willing to give all out...he is unlucky not to choose you.. YOU deserve to try if the other love goes back that is fine if not then someone is meant for u... BETTER one!

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   bloodnlatexposted 15 years ago

   Which guy do you want back?

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   Meliloves2writeposted 15 years ago

   Yeah my boy wanted to get back with me but right now i have to move on from him because i didnt really love him obviously but how can the actor tell me he loves me than all of a sudden not mean it? is he just scared? he shouldnt be because he said it first

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      Colebabieposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Umm no. He told you the truth. He met someone else he has stronger feelings for. There is no "scared"
      
      You told your boyfriend you loved him and found someone else. Were you scared? No.
      Now the guy you found said he loved you and found someone else.
      
      Point being, you probably didn't love the first guy. And the actor probably doesn't love you. You both found someone else

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      bloodnlatexposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      If he told you that without even being with you, he was full of shit.  Him making you choose between him and your boyfriend was just his way of seeing how much he can get you to do for him.

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   zadrobiposted 15 years ago

   Aaaaah, yes-- tale as old as time. Leave the one that is there for you for another, and then the same is done to you. If your ex meant that much to you then you wouldn't have done that to him in the first place. So, if the problem is that you are feeling alone, you might as well see how big of a sucker your ex is and tell him what a mistake you've made.

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      Meliloves2writeposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I told him about him

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   bloodnlatexposted 15 years ago

   Once he saw that he was able to control you, game got boring and he moved on to the chase of new prey.

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   Colebabieposted 15 years ago

   Move on, you don't want to be with a guy who doesn't want to be with you.

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   torimariposted 15 years ago

   Not fuck around in the first place?

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   thranaxposted 15 years ago

   Wow, the way you say it you think men are bad. Your the one who dumped him for someone else, if you loved him in the first place he probably trusted you wouldn't do that. Its pretty cold if you saw it though his eyes.
   
   Idk, it would take a lot for me to accept someone back if they did that to me.
   
   ~thranax~

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    bloodnlatexposted 15 years ago

    Would take him back if you loved him and he dumped you for another chic?

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    Mrvoodooposted 15 years ago

    Your ex got lucky, you saved him from wasting any more time on you, do him a favor, don't try and get back with him just because you got played.

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    Meliloves2writeposted 15 years ago

    thanks all for the advice I feel better about it now!

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