Is it possible to be with one person for your entire life and not be attracted t

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  1. Grace-Wolf-30 profile image60
    Grace-Wolf-30posted 6 years ago

    Is it possible to be with one person for your entire life and not be attracted to anyone else?

  2. peeples profile image95
    peeplesposted 6 years ago

    Attraction and acting on attraction are two very different things. I'd say it would be nearly impossible to NEVER be attracted to anyone other than your mate unless you never saw other people. Attraction is a natural human reaction. The key is never acting on it and I think there are plenty of people who have been able to be faithful for a life long relationship.

  3. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 6 years ago

    I have been with my husband since I was 18, married at 19 and we are still together 43 years later.  So it possible to be with one person successfully--however of course we both find other people attractive, that is human nature. We are in love and married - but we are not dead. 

    So we can be attracted to others but we do not pursue it.

  4. savvydating profile image95
    savvydatingposted 6 years ago

    The key word for me is desire. I think we can find others attractive, but not necessarily feel attracted in the sense of desiring to "be" with them, especially when we are deeply attracted to our mate. Having said that, if I see a handsome guy, I can't help but look (out of the corner of my eye). wink

  5. bac2basics profile image89
    bac2basicsposted 6 years ago

    Unless you are the only two people on the planet I would think this would be impossible. It´s only human nature.

  6. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    I think it's possible to be faithful to your spouse but still find other people attractive.
    Everyone on the planet does not suddenly turn ugly or unattractive simply because you get married. In fact recent studies indicate that married people often continue to flirt with co-workers, strangers, and so on with no intention of cheating.

  7. MichelleHillstrom profile image60
    MichelleHillstromposted 6 years ago

    It is possible to be with someone successfully for your entire life, there is no doubt about this as evident by the numerous old couples that I got to know while working for a doctor's office. Now as to the attraction part of your question, humans are going to see others and find their appearance appealing, however, when I am in a long-term relationship I sort of stop noticing men. I can't speak for others on this, but really I just don't notice them when I am in a happy relationship. I can see an actor in a movie or television show and think, "Wow, he is cute," but when I meet guys out in public they no longer do anything for me. I no longer have that desire to find them attractive. But, I think that people you are not happy in a relationship or do not want to be monogamous would continue to seek out people that they find physically appealing.

  8. DDE profile image24
    DDEposted 6 years ago

    It is so possible for one to attracted to another while with someone for their whole lives, you can't avoid such attractions.

  9. myefforts profile image81
    myeffortsposted 6 years ago

    Yes, it is possible to be with one person for the whole life. It all depends upon the depth of the relationship. You might be attracted by others but it would only be temporary if the relationship with the first person is deep,

  10. divineadriano profile image57
    divineadrianoposted 6 years ago

    Yah! I think it's possible. Love and attraction are different matters. When you love someone truthfully, for sure you won't get attracted to someone even though he's the most good looking man on Earth. Because when you love someone, you don't want him to get hurt, you don't want him to feel jealous that he is lesser than anybody else. That feeling will keep you from being attracted. But if you only have attraction for someone or physical desires, for sure you will get attracted to someone else that you think is better. My mom and dad had been for twenty five years and I had never seen them quarrel over someone else

  11. Rija Zehra Jafri profile image59
    Rija Zehra Jafriposted 6 years ago

    its possible to b with the same person for the rest of your life if they r eady to treat u rite

  12. MaryamL profile image60
    MaryamLposted 6 years ago

    It is verrrrrrrry possible indeed. I do not see myself with anyone else but my husband. I do not know the future, but that is how I feel even when I am extremely mad at him


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