Is it important to meet the ex-wife or ex-husband's new "partner" if you have ki

1. 60

   Toyshika Eppsposted 13 years ago

   Is it important to meet the ex-wife or ex-husband's new "partner" if you have kids?
   
   Should the ex wife or husband be obligated to tell the ex-spouse if a marriage is being planned, or is that none of his/her business?

   replyreport
2. 40

   tobzyjen81posted 13 years ago

   Yes it is because that person may turn out to be a big part in your childrens life.

   replyreport
3. 68

   raquelpierposted 13 years ago

   Perhaps 'obligated' is too demanding a word...but I feel when you are co-parenting it is important to know something about the people our children will be associating with. No one says we have to be 'besties' but we should make an effort to be 'cordial' and try to get to know the people in our children's lives.

   replyreport
4. 67

   xethonxqposted 13 years ago

   Definitely it's important to meet the ex. The kids will be impacted by the ex's new relationship with their partner.
   
   I don't know if the ex should be obligated to tell the other ex about the marriage...but it would be a good idea to do so particularly if there are kids involved. Kids have thoughts and feelings about these kinds of things and both parents need to be sensitive to how things are affecting them. Communication lines should remain open and empathic.

   replyreport
5. 82

   JEDIJESSICUHposted 13 years ago

   I don't think so, no, not unless they get serious. If she's going to be apart of my children's life, then I would want to meet her. I would want to make sure she's going to be a good influence on my children when they're with their father. But if he's just dating around, then no. I don't particularly care and I would expect him to be respectful enough not to introduce my kids to every woman he decided to take on a couple dates.

   replyreport
6. 60

   Toyshika Eppsposted 13 years ago

   Thank you guys for answering the question. It's late, but I will have to post part two on Thursday. xoxoxo

   replyreport
7. 59

   juiwei2000posted 13 years ago

   Definitly important, considering the fact this person would be in your kid's life, intensively, worse case senario what is he is a drug addict or a drunk how bash up your kid and your ex wife after getting drunk or somebody that would sexually molest your daughter, (remeber, she is not his kid and once she becamse a teenager...I don't think I need to say for you to get what I am talking about and while it morally unethical to do a fourteen years old, some people simply don't give a crap about ethic.)

   replyreport
8. 59

   cmillsjrposted 13 years ago

   I myself am going through this exact situation right now and I believe that as a parent, yes, both parents have a right to know who else is in their child's life and helping to raise them when in the other parents care. My ex and I parted ways during her third month of pregnancy and have a beautiful daughter together. I met someone back in October and we now have a child on the way together and are engaged to be married. I was adamant about making sure my ex met my fiance so that she would know what kind of person would be around our daughter. My ex also will be making sure I will meet any man she becomes involved in a serious relationship with to show that same respect. Respect and communication is vital in any relationship as parents whether the parents are still together or not for the well being of the children whom have no say in whatever happens between their parents or their significant others.

   replyreport