Well, I'm guessing that I could answer this question if it were phrased,"What would you do if you fell in love with a married woman?" I hope that its okay so that you receive twice the amount of responses!
My answer would be to just bite the bullet and move on. I am firm believer of karma and so would have no other choice: Were the shoe on the other foot, I wouldn't want my wife to do the same to me. It's just not fair. Although I am not Catholic, I believe wholeheartedly in the Commandment that states that we should not covet another's wife. There are way too many woman and men out there to go after anyone who has committed to such a sacred union, regardless of your religion. Just tell that person whom you have such feelings for to look you up if and only if they leave their spouse. Life is just too short to knowingly attain such karmic debt.
Hold off my emotions. If I'm in love with someone who is already taken, it is not my move to make. He is the one who is married so he will have to make the move to stay with his wife or leave her. I refuse to be a mistress to a married man. That is just insulting to me and his wife.
The trick is to be in control of my emotions. If you can catch them, withhold them, control them, and morph them, then your life will have ups and downs. However, there will exist an emotionally intelligent individual.
Falling in love takes interaction and response from the other person. So if I found myself attracted to a married man, I would stay way from him. It can't end well.
I ask yourself this question, if the two of you never met, would you have this problem? The answer would be no, so just treat it like the two of you never met to begin with and move on with your life.
since i am a man i will put "woman" into your question. personally i would walk away and realize that if i love this person, destroying what they already have would be extremely selfish and if the woman did want to be with me, i wouldn't be able to trust her since she left her husband for me so she will most likely leave me for someone else.there are lots of good single people out there so why go after those that are already taken.
I would leave it be. You're just ruining the happiness of another family, for the sake of your personal satisfaction.
Thanks for all of your comments. Just for the record, I wasn't talking about myself here. Maybe I should have elaborated on that. It was just a mind provoking question in general. Thought I put this right as I don't want anyone to comment with me in mind. ;-) Thank you ! :-)
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