What would you do in a long distance relationship when the stakes change?

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  1. catchpennyfashion profile image60
    catchpennyfashionposted 7 years ago

    What would you do in a long distance relationship when the stakes change?

    Say you were supposed to be apart for only a year but your significant other got offered a great opportunity and has to stay for three years instead of one. You live in different countries so traveling often to see each other is hard and expensive. Is this even healthy and worth it? Even if you love eachother and your significant other is willing to make it work would you agree?

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    djsdivaposted 7 years ago

    Yes its worth it! My fiance left in July 2009 to go overseas to work for 2 weeks max, its not 3 1/2 years later and he is still overseas working. While it has been hard since I am in the states and his in Europe we have made it work. Thank God for Skype it is a live saver smile

    Your love for each other will grow stronger everyday your apart.  When you are able to travel to be with each other it will be remarkable in every way imaginable.  Relationships are hard no matter what the circumstance is, but if you both love each other and are both willing to fight for what you believe in everything will be just fine in the long run.
    Good Luck

  3. 1kmjs profile image76
    1kmjsposted 7 years ago

    You have two choices here, and this is only my opinion. You either pack your stuff and go to him or you end it. There is no grey matter in between. I wouldnt be so direct in this but it seems even in your writing that it is seriously getting to you. You have to make your choice "Is this guy worth moving to another country for?" and act on it. I'd hate for you to waste the prime years in your life waiting for something while also being drivin mad with "maybes, and what if's". If you love then you know it. So Go, or say goodbye.

  4. Jynzly profile image71
    Jynzlyposted 7 years ago

    If the change is reasonable and beyond our control then perhaps I will just choose to suffer a little more and develop trust though this is still under certain conditions. But if it can be helped such as finding a job nearby or joining him for whatever cost and yet he is not willing to do it then I won't waste my time wondering what will happen after those three long years. To live is to live now. I will live my life now so I would think of what is best for me without him.

  5. bmukherjii profile image60
    bmukherjiiposted 6 years ago

    Yes, I will agree, because it will help me to get a jump in my career which my other half is expected to understand. Secondly, such a decision of moving to a separate country can only take place when the jump in the earnings is significantly high. Hope that will be enough to cover up my frequent travel expenses to meet my partner.


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