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Have you managed to remain very good friends with your very first important 'bes

  1. GoodLady profile image94
    GoodLadyposted 6 years ago

    Have you managed to remain very good friends with your very first important 'best friend'? How?

    Why?  What is it about this friendship that is so dear, or important, or particular that it has lasted a lifetime?

  2. Tonipet profile image84
    Tonipetposted 6 years ago

    Hi GoodLady,

    I and my favorite bestfriend will always be friends for a lifetime. It's just amazing how we get along with so many things. We're two different people with different personalities but its perhaps how we accepted each other as a unique person that has kept the bond strong between us. Of course things also come in not so good terms at times but that quickly gets resolved. One reason we both knew is the main source of this good friendship - its the understanding and because we have our LORD JESUS always with us. HE IS our first and most important bestfriend and HE has shown us how a real friend can be a joy to cherish forever. That was a wonderful question. Thank you.

    May the spirit of Christmas be upon you and your family. MERRY CHRISTMAS!

  3. Rastamermaid profile image72
    Rastamermaidposted 6 years ago

    I guess I've been blessed that most of my childhood friends and I are still intouch.With the aid of Facebook it's even gotten better. We're spread about the country and in other countries. Childhood friends know you,they knew you when your were forming to be what you are today.

    Now the women that I swam with on a team,or cheered with on a team both have different bonds. My swim team sisters are in my blood our bond from years of training and traveling together is very unique. The women I swam in college with are totally different,but my roommate and I are still intouch and I visit her out of state.

    I did have a chilldhood friendship that came to a head,and she didn't want to be my friend for real,but it took 20 years to come out.We had several friends in common,but she made sure she stayed in contact with one no matter where she lived.She lived out of town for years and return,well at her home it came up that she always stayed in contact with one friend and not the rest of us. And she stated,I always stay in touch with her because I want to.I was not the only one that left that day with no intention of calling or dealing with her anymore. After a few phone calls the rest of us went on with our business. At a function at my home she called her "friend" who was chilling with the rest of us. When she asked where she was and told her my place with the girls.She said "I'm on my way,I want to chill and sip too. Her "friend" had to tell her she wasn't invited. She proceeded to ask her "friend" to allow her to speak with me. That wasn't happening.

    I've learned that all friendship aren't meant to last a lifetime,but if you have afew cherish them,their special.

  4. GoodLady profile image94
    GoodLadyposted 6 years ago

    My very first best friend is still my best friend. We met and became friends more than forty years ago.  We live in different countries and we don't get together very often.  We lead completely different lives to the galmorous ones we were leading in London when we were working in Journalism, (with different companions/husbands).

    But that true bond of true friendship is always always there.  We totally respect each others differences.  We connect sincerely to who we really are, to who we really were, no matter how life batters and rewards and changes.
    We greatly respect each others talents!  We love each others gifts. We've always enjoyed talking about our dreams.
    We know how to mourn (we have buried many loved ones) and celebrate (had marriages and births and parties of all kinds) and have fun and be truly serious (she helped me financially all through my cancer)....all the time. 
    We come from the same place inside. 
    We just about stay in touch by phone.  I try to visit her and she tries to visit me every year or so.
    She and I are very different on the outside; she is a fabulously successful business woman and I lead a really simple, artistic life.But on the inside we are the same two women we were, when we get together.
    It is a friendship we cherish and take care of and always will.  It's a silent pact we must have made way back 40 years ago.  It's a love I depend on and I know she depends on mine.
    She is a part of my life and I like to take care of that, no matter where we are, or how impossible it is to get together or even 'talk'.

  5. NiaLee profile image61
    NiaLeeposted 6 years ago

    Hello Good lady yes I did. I have tried to be available when she needs me, I have forgiven when she misbehaved and I always try to respect her views.
    Only one thing, except from her, I find that a lot of times with other friends, the work is always on my side to reach back, to forgive and to let pass mean things, so for the, l closed the door.

  6. Kittyatlarge profile image58
    Kittyatlargeposted 6 years ago

    Good friends are hard to come by in this world so I try my best to keep them. First of all I try to work out any problem right away because the longer a problem lingers the harder it is to mend. I always let them know how much I value them and I never dump someone unless they do something really bad. Like threaten my life or any of my other friends, but that only happened once. Finally I try to always be there for them. I used to tell myself I would never need anyone, but friends are important and I don't know what I'd do without them. When I'm around my friends there is a connection that can't be explained, but it's just there.

  7. ishwaryaa22 profile image88
    ishwaryaa22posted 6 years ago

    I remained very good friends with my First best friend since school. Though our friendship had ups and downs, still it went steady due to our mutual understanding, care, affection and loyalty to each other. We are there for each other in both happy and harsh times. If my best friend is successful in her studies or venture, i am thrilled for her and she is also thrilled when i myself succeeded in my studies or projects. When she face problems, she call me over, we talk and we solve it. Even when i have mood-swings or is unhappy for some reason, she advise me how to get over it and move on and after her patient talk, i listen and i am thus back to my happy self! For years, we invite each other to our houses and have fun and all. We trust each other a lot. Though i got some other good friends, this very friend i mentioned is an exception as she possessed all the qualities of an extremely good person and thus an ultimately Best friend!  That what Best Friends are!  Unless you and your best friend(s) stay loyal, caring for each other, stand for each other through good and bad times, NO Jealousy, No Betrayal, stay in touch with each other and above all maintain your friendship with extra care, this friendship will last ever.

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    kate-olsonposted 6 years ago

    I have one, special, lifelong friend who will always be there for me, even though we have lived far apart for the past 7ish years. We went through many of the same things in life, and we understand each other. We can fight, we can disagree, and still be friends. It feels much more like family. We take trips to go see each other.

    I think that communication is very important. It's easy to tell positive feelings, but in order to have a solid relationship, you have to be able to say, "You really hurt me" and "I think you're wrong." The friendships that failed, failed because of my failure to speak my heart. I was afraid of losing the friendships, but the emotional walls ended up killing it anyway.

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    reeltaulkposted 6 years ago

    Unfortunately or fortunately I have not remained friends with some individuals I thought we shared a "great" friendship.  As usual people usually have hidden feelings (usually negative) and agendas that would make your head spin......... But when you look at it, sometimes it is for the better.  But for some we held things together even if our relationship was hanging by a thin string.  Somewhere along the line we strengthened and rekindled a better relationship due to maturity and just understanding what it is to be and accept oneself and others no matter who, what, where, when and why.  The best relationships makes no judgements, holds no bars and allow things to be as they are once no one is stepping on any ones toes.  If the truth be told some relatioinships last lifetimes continuously leaving off from where ever it had been paused.  Sometimes it feels great not to have friends.  People's outlook and views on friendship is always based on something other than friendship!  Go Figure who would have known the meaning of friendship would have evolved to that!

    Like Kitty said good friends are hard to come by, but great friendships will always make you a believer!

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    Friervaposted 6 years ago

    I believe that certain people in your life that you develop a closeness to, eventually become a part of your life that is so imperative and meaningful that living without them is not an option. Of course this is very rare, hence the term "best friend" not "friends", however one of those is all you need.
          Also, the only way I have been able to feel comfortable with my best relationships is by maintaining a mutual balance of give and take between myself and those I love. When you can become naturally symbiotic with another person and feel that the energy you exert is given back equally, as well as the care, then it should be for keeps in your life. I try not to get too close with the people who do not respect my needs when I do theirs. So as an indication of "best friendship" I always try to maintain those few people who allow me to be myself, who push me to be better, and who give back without taking everything.

  11. Cardia profile image94
    Cardiaposted 6 years ago

    To be honest, I had my first 'best friend' in primary school. However, as I got older, I realized that she was very materialistic (her family is pretty wealthy) and she would show off all her clothes, new items and her trips overseas. It got exhausting listening to her all the time, plus she was pretty condescending too.

    Eventually we went to different schools, and we no longer talk. I deleted her off my Facebook contact list to show that that chapter was over.

    I now am in a larger group of friends, and I have a few best friends in there. They're so much more supportive, fun to be with and filled with ideas. Plus, they have great senses of humour, but they know when to be serious. We give each other advice on things, and try to help each other as best we can. I'm really glad that I met all of them.

  12. tlmcgaa70 profile image76
    tlmcgaa70posted 6 years ago

    no. my first best friend was in grade school and she moved away. we saw each other a few times after and our meetings were always filled with hugs and tears of joy at seeing each other again. i eventually moved out of state and never saw her again. my second best friend is still close to me. we met in high school and she had an issue with my sister. after she found out we were sisters she thought i would no longer be her friend that i would choose my sister over her. i knew the situation and why she had an issue and felt it had no bearing on whether she and i should be friends or not. i told her then and meant every word of it..."when i become friends, it is for life. even if the other person decides not to be my friend i will always be theirs."

  13. sangre profile image96
    sangreposted 6 years ago

    Still friends with a girl I have know since I was 13, Still in contact 10 years later. It helps we are less than 30 minutes away from each other.

    The benefit is that it's great to be able to talk to someone who knows you as good as yourself and understands you. Plus we just connect in general.