What is the best way to break-up with a girlfriend without hurting her?!

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  1. Alpha-Authentic profile image39
    Alpha-Authenticposted 6 years ago

    What is the best way to break-up with a girlfriend without hurting her?!

    I have been dating this lovely lady for about seven months now but I've met someone else who it way much better(I'm not a player!). I am a very polite guy and I don't want to hurt her feelings. So the question is... How do I get rid of her?(in a nice way)

  2. Sturgeonl profile image87
    Sturgeonlposted 6 years ago

    Have real reasons that make it about you...not her.

  3. alexatomas profile image63
    alexatomasposted 6 years ago

    There is no nice way to get rid of her, really. I think the best way to break-up with someone is to make them break up with you. Find what annoys them and do it all the time. Start acting a bit cold and make up excuses for not seeing them all the time. They will probably realise it's not working and break-up.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    If she loves you or even cares very much for you there is no way to breakup with her without hurting her. Ideally you should have done this when you felt the "urge" to go out with someone else. Now it looks as though you were (looking)for someone else before you dumped her. Some people treat relationships like jobs. They won't leave one unless they have another one waiting in the wings. All you should do now is tell her the truth. Clearly you were just going with the flow and felt either bored or in rut. It's not about her it's about you. Avoid trying to come off as a "nice guy" or defending your actions. It is what it is.

  5. profile image49
    Summersnowposted 6 years ago

    You tell her, pretty much like you just told us ... honestly. It's not her fault, you don't want to hurt her feelings, but everyone is trying to meet the person most suited for them ... at least up until the point of marriage. Just be honest and kind. Hopefully you'll end up with the better girl and the first will remain a friend!

  6. kkuma01 profile image60
    kkuma01posted 6 years ago

    You can't break up with her without hurting her. Tell her the truth.

  7. stricktlydating profile image82
    stricktlydatingposted 6 years ago

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  8. wonderingwoolley profile image59
    wonderingwoolleyposted 6 years ago

    You can't. Relationships and break ups have risks, and one of those is getting hurt and hurting others. Try to reduce this as much as possible by being calm and honest. Don't lie because that is not fair to her, she deserves to know the real reason why. It will be uncomfortable for you, but that's how it is. If she is lovely like you say, you want to treat her with respect. You don't know how she'll react, but expect her to be hurt, and try not to get into an argument with her, that will only make it worse. Good luck!

  9. Sheila Lee profile image59
    Sheila Leeposted 6 years ago

    There is not going to be anything you say or do that will make this break-up easy for her. Being honest is good. Honesty is always the best policy. But it won't make it any easier for her. Break ups are never easy.

    But to cushion the blow, let her know that she hasn't done anything wrong. Your feelings have changed for her (obviously) and you don't want to lead her on and continue the relationship anymore.

  10. msorensson profile image69
    msorenssonposted 6 years ago

    There is no way to break up with anyone without hurting them if they still want you with them. On the other hand, better now than later...this way you give he a chance to find her own happiness..without you..
    Tell her the truth..that you met someone else..

  11. slappywalker profile image96
    slappywalkerposted 5 years ago

    I'm all for being honest, so let me start by saying that you should tell the truth. However, I wouldn't be so quick to lay out every detail of what happened because she is definitely going to be hurt regardless of how you try to explain it. Giving her all the details of why the other person is better is just going to make her hate you even more.

    You may be a polite, non-player, but there are some situations you just can't win. This happens to be one of them. Be prepared for the anger, and be prepared for her to never want to talk to you again. I sincerely hope the second lady is worth it.

  12. sarkar7722 profile image60
    sarkar7722posted 4 years ago

    Go to present yourself like a boy she detests.Start showing the habits and views she always dislikes. Do not leave her but make her realize that she was wrong in choosing you.

  13. Ruby Kennedy profile image53
    Ruby Kennedyposted 4 years ago

    So you admit to cheating, because you found someone that supports you emotionally.  Talking is cheating.  This is easy, tell her your cheating, she will leave for sure.  And honestly, you don't deserve her.  Hope I didn't hurt your feelings, just being truthful with you nice guy.


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