He is not ready for marriage yet, should I leave or wait?

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  1. profile image50
    think-erposted 7 years ago

    He is not ready for marriage yet, should I leave or wait?

    I have been with my bf for ayear and half. last half year has been long distance cuz he moved to different state. we love each other and very open discussing our issues if we have. last time he told me that he is not ready for marriage he wants to wait few more years. I am 31 now and he is 29. he says he is afraid to loose me. We enjoy each others company and deeply in love. The reason he is not ready cuz he feels he is young and there is a part of him that wants to stay single and enjoy his single life. I had relationships before but this is actually my fist love. should I leave him or wait?

  2. Sheila Lee profile image59
    Sheila Leeposted 7 years ago

    I would leave him. If he loves you why would he want to remain single? You've been together long enough. If he wants to enjoy his single life then he is not totally committed to you and I would look elsewhere to a more commit-able mate.

  3. Kalux profile image84
    Kaluxposted 7 years ago

    I tend to agree with Sheila Lee. It's been long enough and wanting to remain single isn't exactly a loving gesture. He may be frightened but you do need him to commit especially being long distance. I believe that when he says he wants to enjoy his single life it says quite a bit; he isn't ready nor is he making any effort to make you his, in fact, he's doing quite the opposite by saying that. Best of luck.

  4. profile image50
    think-erposted 7 years ago

    Sheila Lee, Kalux
    Thank you for your honest answers.

  5. okaygrace profile image58
    okaygraceposted 7 years ago

    See, this is the kind of thing that just really bugs me.

    Are you happy in the relationship other than the fact that you want to be married? If so then stay with him! I have seen it a million times where people dump their partner because the person wasn't ready "to commit."

    If you are happy, then why does it matter? People put way too much emphasis in titles and formalities, when the only thing that truly matters is your happiness in life.


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