If a person cheat more then once can you forgive and stay with them?

Jump to Last Post 1-7 of 7 discussions (7 posts)
  1. profile image51
    kimh2006posted 6 years ago

    If a person cheat more then once can you forgive and stay with them?

    i would like to know for myself

  2. lone77star profile image84
    lone77starposted 6 years ago

    Yes, but it depends on what they do. They have to make amends like their life depends on it. They have to create a miracle that changes their own life and the lives of those around them. By this, they show they are strong enough to leave their great sin behind.

    The great sin, no matter what the specific, physical action, is one of allowing temptation to control them. The temptation can be one of lust, rage or any other dark emotion or physical distraction.

    Sometimes, though, it is good to give them some distance so they can find the strength and not to use yourself or others as a crutch.

    Always give unconditional love, but wisely. Sometimes it is tough love, sometimes it is distant love, but it remains strong love, nonetheless. By "love," I don't mean physical, biochemical feeling or reaction to stimuli; I'm talking about unselfish caring and compassion despite anything they do.

    By all means leave, if that is the best thing to do. And don't stay out of habit or misguided feelings based on memories. What you do can help them change if done wisely.

  3. MickS profile image69
    MickSposted 6 years ago

    'If a person...' (Singular) '..stay with them.' (Plural)  Just home many cheaters are you talking about, one or many?

  4. juiwei2000 profile image59
    juiwei2000posted 6 years ago

    Oh come on, this is what you should do (drum roll) "DUMP HIM/HER!!!!!!!!"

  5. duffsmom profile image59
    duffsmomposted 6 years ago

    I think, depending on the situation, I could forgive once but with the caveat that if it EVER happened again - the relationship would be over, period.  No second chances.

  6. hillymillydee profile image62
    hillymillydeeposted 6 years ago

    Since it never happened to me, I am not sure because I don't know how hurting it will be. But if he did cheat 2 times what is that trying to show? If I forgave him the first time when he said "sorry I will not do it again" but he repeated it, can I trust him again easily?
    Though it hurts me the first time,I took him back despite the pain in my heart. I thought he was sincere. I pitied him and I tried so much to forget my broken heart.
    This second time I am more fragile and it seems I cannot bear it anymore. I'm sure i will lost my trust and I don't know if I can restore it back.

    It is easy to say forgive him, and yes I can with passing of time but forgiving is different from taking him back.

    The only reason I will take him back is if I am madly in love and still die for his love. Maybe I will follow my emotion. But if my love for him will be killed by the wounds he inflicted in my heart, if this time my brain will function more than my heart... I may not take him back because he committed fornication towards me

    And I will not feel guilty since the Bible approves of it @ Matt19;9 says,"I say to YOU that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.”

  7. Sheila Lee profile image60
    Sheila Leeposted 6 years ago

    I agree with duffsmom. Can forgive once, but it happens again that's it. You know the saying "Fool me once...."


This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

Show Details
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)