Is it easy for someone to regain your trust once they have hurt you?
Trust is like a fragile glass. It can be fixed once broken but will never be as beautiful and perfect like it was before. Sad but true.
Truth be told I have MAJOR and I do mean MAJOR trust issues. It's been that way since I was a child. I'm working on it but haven't accomplished any big hurdles yet. Sad but true. The only good part is I stay away from relationships so they don't have to try and tear down my wall and get hurt in the process:)
Yes. If it's a family member, it's easy for me to forgive. After forgiving the person. I'll unconditionally trust that person all the way up to the moment they hurt me again. Then, I'll forgive again and trust again. It's hard for me to hold a grudge against relatives. BUT, if it's anyone else, I'll forgive them, but I don't keep them in my life. I do all I can to make sure they are not in a position to hurt me again. I don't go out of my way with a grudge against them; I just don't let them in my life again.
It depends if that someone is sincere and sorry and has learnt from their mistake. Trusting them again will be difficult but can be slowly earned,
Not at all. It becomes difficult for me to even keep that person as a friend. To trust them? Maybe after a year or two of being friends again.
I've been told I shouldn't be so painfully honest, when answering this question......but I disagree. I'm of the belief that people should know us well. We shouldn't pretend or gloss things over. Being honest with our emotions is a vital part of the workings of any relationship.
I will always trust my children, regardless of any ups & downs. My love and devotion to them is totally unconditional and EXCLUSIVE.........As for "others?" It is pretty much a fatal mistake to betray my trust. I do not easily excuse or forgive disloyalty and/or deceit. I adhere to the adage: "Fool me once, shame on you.....fool me twice, shame on ME." I'm not inclined to approve 2nd chances to those outside my own loved ones.....I clearly learn realistic lessons, the FIRST time around.....
That depends. I've had wives or significant others run around with other guys--sometimes a LOT--and that's not a problem for me. I don't consider "cheating" to be a trust issue, unlike the vast majority of other people out there. So in that case, there's not even any need to "regain" my trust as it has never been "lost" (because I've not been hurt).
However, if it's what I consider a deeper issue, then it's One and Done. Forever.
What's a deeper issue? Well, for example, let's say a supposed friend of mine decided to go around badmouthing my wife. Not only is he permanently off my friend list, but from that point forward unto eternity, he'll not only never regain my trust, but his health will benefit any time he sees me coming down the sidewalk and crosses the street to the other side.
It is never easy to regain the trust and will take time. Even then it wouldn't be of a degree as that of first time..
Once trust has been broken I am leery of that person, especially if I thought they were someone that I could trust without question It would be a disappointment but I could never trust them again.
I would have to say it's not easy at all but it can be done. For me it takes a lot of patience and time.
Some people have a two time rule...I have a one time rule. First you earn my trust (which takes a while). If you ever have my trust and break it I will never trust in you again. So far my mistrust has been proven to last a decade and longer, I have a very long memory for betrayal.
I have the one time rule also - people start out with the same amount of trust, as far as my armspan is -just like i was giving a big hug-eventually when they lose my trust /break my heart/ do me wrong -my hands are folded -crossing my heart
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