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Anybody have any thoughts on red flags to look for in an online first date meeti

  1. Sheila Lee profile image61
    Sheila Leeposted 6 years ago

    Anybody have any thoughts on red flags to look for in an online first date meeting?

    If you met someone in person that you met on an online dating site, what things would tip you off that something wasn't right? Even something very slight.


  2. lukeuk profile image71
    lukeukposted 6 years ago

    Bad grammar,  strange word order, and finally an eagerness NOT to meet you in an open public place !

    1. Misunderstoodpoet profile image60
      Misunderstoodpoetposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Try to be human!My native language is not english!...

  3. Juliek958 profile image61
    Juliek958posted 6 years ago

    I will answer with a personal experience.

    First, meet in a public place, do not give your home address!  And meet at a reasonable time. 

    I met for dinner and my immediate impression was...he is nice.  He was very attentive, and appeared to be very interested in getting to know me.  But the more we talked, the more this little voice in my head started telling me to put on the brakes.  Everything I said that I would like to do, he wanted to do with me.  When I mentioned that Sunday's were important to me.  That they were my family day, he said that's ok as long as I'm with you when you spend it with your family.  This red light went off in my brain.  Whoa wait, first date and he's telling me that from now on, everything I do, he will be with me?  How controlling and suffocating is this guy?  He started making plans for my life then and there...again first date.  I finally got out of there and thank goodness for caller id - never answered his calls, never returned them. 

    Another sign...my dog loves everyone.  She thinks everyone comes to my house to see her, not me.  Everyone is her best friend.  Except one guy I had pick me up.  I heard her growl for the first time in the two years that she had been in my life.  She growled, she barked, she stood between us.  And since I firmly believe she came in to my life at a time I needed a best friend and that God brought her to me, I listened.  I showed the guy the door, told him I wasn't going and locked it behind him.  Crazy thing to do but not one I regret. 

    Look for someone who is interested but not controlling.  Someone who suggests a next date, not makes plans for the next date.  Listen to your inner voice and trust your instincts.  Watch how much they drink and if that person does drink, watch if there are any changes to their personality.  And stay sober yourself!  And if your dog or cat behave unusually, show them the door!

  4. SaferDates profile image59
    SaferDatesposted 6 years ago

    They profess their undying love and affection on the first date.

    1. Misunderstoodpoet profile image60
      Misunderstoodpoetposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      If you don't believe in love at first sight, you shouldn't meet them!

  5. Princess Prisca profile image60
    Princess Priscaposted 6 years ago


    Hi Sheila,

    Online dating services can be great for some and horrible for others.  Some red flags to look for are:

    The person does not want to meet in a public place.

    If they are from out-of-town, they hint they would like to stay with you because a hotel isn't in their budget right now.

    They just know you are their soul mate and they have been searching/waiting for you all of their lives. (This is expressed to you on the first date.)

    They insist on be 'overly' generous with monetary help, affection and advice.

    They are 'bossy' - this will later lead to you being involved with a 'control freak.'

    I have many more, but you are a 'sharp lady' and I know this is more than enough to 'get your thought juices flowing.'

    Ciao...Princess Prisca

  6. Misunderstoodpoet profile image60
    Misunderstoodpoetposted 5 years ago

    It depends of many things...It depends on what we want...