My boyfriend and I have been in a serious relationship just over a year and a ha

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    kaseyl87posted 6 years ago

    My boyfriend and I have been in a serious relationship just over a year and a half. We have talked

    marriage and he's mentioned how he'd love to make me his wife after I graduate college(2.5 years away). Let me add, I'm 24 and he is 35, divorced with 2 children. Well, in May of last year he lost his mother to a horrific battle with cancer and unfortunately has just not been the same since. He's very depressed and lost interest in a lot of things since. Our relationship has definitely taken the back seat. He told me the other day that he's afraid to marry again and is unsure if he wants to do so again, but he's still in love with me and wants to be with me. I am unsure of what to think or do?

  2. MickS profile image69
    MickSposted 6 years ago

    This is an epistle to the Romans, but it's not a question, sticking a question mark at the end doesn't make it a question, it just implies you are confused.  What's the question?

  3. profile image51
    kaseyl87posted 6 years ago

    Well, I was only allowed 600 characters so I really couldn't fit in everything I wanted to say/ask. How do I submit a question to Veronica where I am able to type as much as I need in order to fully explain my situation and my question?

  4. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    "He told me the other day that he's afraid to marry again and is unsure if he wants to do so again, but he's still in love with me and wants to be with me." First of all don't let words like (unsure), (still in love), and (wants to be with me) throw you off. Essentially your boyfriend is taking back his planned proposal time frame.

    If your goal is to (be with him) then it doesn't matter whether you get married or not. Goldie Hawn & Kurt Russell have been together for 30 years without being married. However if your goal is to (be married) then you need to start dating someone who is "marriage minded".
    In order for HIM to be "the one" he must also see YOU as being "the one". Whenever two people don't want the same thing concerning something as major as getting married there really is not much point in sticking together. All marriages will have their challenges but at the very least a marriage should start off with BOTH people (wanting)to get married! Best of luck!

  5. juiwei2000 profile image59
    juiwei2000posted 6 years ago

    If you are confuse because you feel getting married and having children is a necessity in life (like many girls believe), then, here is my advice, getting married and having kids are not a necessity in life.  Apart from that, my advice for you is just to be honest with yourself and with him, completely.

    Also, scientifically speaking, people should not get married until they been together for at least 3 years.  Because by them all of the hormones that make you guys not think straight are gone and you can now think with a clear head.


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