How do you know or did you know you were with the right person?

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  1. ahostagesituation profile image78
    ahostagesituationposted 6 years ago

    How do you know or did you know you were with the right person?

  2. dksuttle profile image76
    dksuttleposted 6 years ago

    When I realized that he respected me and valued my opinion (even though I was only 16).  I am now 65 and we are still together and he still respects me and values my opinion.

  3. Express10 profile image86
    Express10posted 6 years ago

    I know that it's cliche, but it just feels right. It can be completely effortless at times and a battle at others but at any point, when there is NO one else that you'd rather be with, I'd say they are the right person.

  4. thebiologyofleah profile image89
    thebiologyofleahposted 6 years ago

    I have a similar thought as Express10, it is right when you don't think of being with anyone else. There are a lot of answers to this question I think it varies from person to person.  But my answer has to do with never thinking about what it would be like to date (marry, etc) other people. Also when you don't panic everytime you think of spending the rest of your life with the person.

  5. alisha4u profile image38
    alisha4uposted 6 years ago

    One can only realize it gradually...Once you start spending time with that person, you will yourself come to knwo about it...

  6. shadowspyro99 profile image61
    shadowspyro99posted 6 years ago

    Thats a really great questions, of course when I was with all my boyfriends, there was really only one that made me feel great to be around, he knew alot about me and he wanted to know more. Sometimes he didn't even need to ask how I felt, and when we got interupted for kissing we could still feel a spark and we decided to hold off but we still wanted to if just depends on how well you know him, the touch that makes you feel right, and great, the moments that makes your life worth wild of being with each other. I hope this helps.

  7. profile image0
    reeltaulkposted 6 years ago

    You know that you are with the right person when no judgements exist, no strings are attached and you can and feel free expressing yourSELF!

  8. thoughtwoman profile image61
    thoughtwomanposted 6 years ago

    i ended up going against the grain when i decided to give the man who is now my husband a try. he was everything i detested before--rock music, muscle cars, football player, and former car salesman. he turned out to be very loving, very respectful, and very considerate of me. i knew i was with the right person by being with him when he agreed to let my mom live with us. she lived with us for 10 years and passed away just this past October, so i'm forever grateful to him that i got to spend my mom's last decade with her in our house!

  9. Pauline C Stark profile image53
    Pauline C Starkposted 6 years ago

    I know I'm with the right person because we love each other for who we are, with all our imperfections. We can talk about anything, openly and honestly, we don't keep secrets, and we are on the same page about kids and money. Out of everyone in the world, I feel the most at home when I'm anywhere with my husband.

  10. Smart is Good profile image60
    Smart is Goodposted 6 years ago

    It's not something you KNOW it's something you FEEL. It just doesn't happen fast, it takes time for you to know the real person you're with and the way you two embrace each other's personalities. You just feel it, there's no right answer but your own heart's.

  11. kenneth avery profile image81
    kenneth averyposted 6 years ago

    when we started having the same thoughts and finishing each other's sentences, plus when they hurt, I hurt.

  12. onegoodwoman profile image74
    onegoodwomanposted 6 years ago

    When there was no more doubt or questions...............

    Married, fresh out of high school, to the same man, for 30 years............

    YES, I have thought of divorce, murder ( no need to dial 911), fantastic apartments, greater gathering around to take my side...........I have run the gaunlet.................I, do expect, that he has daydreamed of snapping my neck, or of at least, wringing it.

    The fact of the matter is....................we do not act upon our anger...........we allow it to much as I might " hate"  you today..........I will need your help so much more, tomorrow...........................................  IS the gift of marriage.

    Is he right for me, or am I right for him?    It matters not..............we each , so vowed.

    Our vow is the gift that overshadows every other thing.

    All those promises, vows, dreams..............they were born, so long ago, in our youthful fevor.............

    we never imagined.......burnt homes, dead babies, heart attacks, drug addictions...............

    we simply had no one else, but each other.   We just held on..........either remembering, or looking forward.

  13. edhan profile image61
    edhanposted 6 years ago

    It is all about the feeling. When you have the right person, you can kinda know it unless you sense that it is all pretense. I have this feeling with my wife when I first met her.

    After knowing her for only 3 weeks, we got married. It was like love at first sight.

  14. Venessa1 profile image46
    Venessa1posted 6 years ago

    I had no doubts. As in previous relationships, there was nothing telling me at the back of my mind that it was wrong.

  15. kayyluh profile image73
    kayyluhposted 6 years ago

    You are always happy, you want to spend every moment with that person because they make you happy. You have a special connection, you never want to be apart. In other words you will just know?

  16. dilipchandra12 profile image76
    dilipchandra12posted 6 years ago

    If i am happy with that person, i am sure that i am with the right person...!!!

  17. Turtlewoman profile image94
    Turtlewomanposted 6 years ago

    Good question! You know he's right when he has seen you at your worst, and still loves you. Yes, you need chemistry, attraction, respect, and all that good stuff. But the real deal is when he's been with you through the worst times, supporting you and understanding you.
    Also, if you feel like YOURSELF when you are around him, that's another good sign that he could be the right person.

  18. Dave Mathews profile image61
    Dave Mathewsposted 6 years ago

    They say that "Opposites attract" I looked for someone totally opposite to me.

  19. Bldg an Architect profile image70
    Bldg an Architectposted 6 years ago

    You know when you know.  Its a non-answer, but it's the truth.


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