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Past versus present?

  1. ljrc1961 profile image83
    ljrc1961posted 6 years ago

    Past versus present?

    A past lover has contacted you and you are presently in a relationship with someone that you have been having doubts about.  You love the present person but never truly got over the person of the past.  What would you do?

  2. SayedAthar Husain profile image60
    SayedAthar Husainposted 6 years ago

    Forget past. There is a limit to wild wish. concentrate on present. The old world likes to see sincerity and faithfulness whichever side it looks!

  3. shyprn14 profile image73
    shyprn14posted 6 years ago

    If you are married, it is best to make do; with your life as it is. Because there would be a lot, of legal fees, and upsets in the house.
    If you are on the other hand single? Do what your heart guides you to do.

  4. Possessed profile image60
    Possessedposted 6 years ago

    I'll say stick with the present. If the past person left you once, you'll be stupid to assume he/she won't leave you again. So don't put the current relationship in jeoparady.

  5. MsDora profile image95
    MsDoraposted 6 years ago

    You already have doubts about the present person, so don't let this relationship prevent you from dealing with your feelings for the previous person.  However, avoid the rebound situation.  Be careful.  There' might be a third and best opportunity around the corner!.

  6. mackyi profile image68
    mackyiposted 5 years ago

    First rule: Never mix old wine with new wine (an old saying)! I believe a person who doesn't possess all the required components of "true love" for his/her partner, will be the one who is likely to find him/herself in the above predicament. When you are lacking even one component of love(commitment, Passion and Intimacy), you will always find yourself "flip-flopping" in relationships.

    What I am thinking here, is that, anyone who is in this situation, is still thinking about the past person, while holding on to the present person simply because they both possess some of the qualities or characteristics that are important to him/her. Obviously, this new person is not satisfying all the desires or needs!   This profess "love" for this new person is not a real love( not a commensurate love), this is why doubts are still lingering.

  7. moonfairy profile image81
    moonfairyposted 5 years ago

    life is too short to live with "what ifs"...so if you're truly having doubts about the present person and still have feelings for the past one...then give the past a second look. There are many instances of people who have gotten divorced and then "refound" the old relationship and got remarried to live happily ever after..so if you never got over it...who knows?