Can this relationship work?

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   dcamp74posted 13 years ago

   Can this relationship work?
   
   I have been dating the girl of my dreams for five months now and she about to end the relationship because I am away from home to much. I am in the transportation industry and I am gone for a week and home for a week. I have done all I can to make this work but she just keeps on moving father away from me. Can this relationship be saved?

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   YvetteParkerposted 13 years ago

   If you are working legitimately and enjoying your work then continue doing just that. It doesn't sound like she is content with your work schedule. So, no it won't work; becasue she is looking for something different than what you are offering her. Yes, you believe that she is the ONE; however, your relationship is still in its early stages (5 months) and this is the opportune time to find out everything about each other so that you will know whether she really is the girl of your dreams. Don't ever force or rush a relationship. You'll end up with more regrets than happiness.

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   dashingscorpioposted 13 years ago

   "she just keeps on moving further away from me..." That pretty much says it all! The answer to your question is NO! The relationship cannot "work out" unless (both people) want it to. You see her as being "the girl of your dreams" BUT she clearly does not see you as being "the man of her dreams".
   Seeing someone every other week is usually not a "deal breaker" for most long distance relationships when (both people are in love). Some people don't see their significant  other for much longer stretches of time, especially those involving people in the military. I suspect she is simply burned out on the relationship itself or has an eye out for a potential new relationship with someone else. You did not mention either one of your ages. It's very possible that she is too young or is not ready to settle down. For whatever reason she does not see you as being "Mr. Right"
   Five months of dating is usually still considered the "infatuation phase" for most relationships. And if you are only seeing her every other week then your "actual time" together is more like 2 1/2 months! I would not waste time and energy trying to convince someone to stick with me who did not want to be with me. In order for her to be "the one" she has to see you as being "the one". If the feeling is not mutual the relationship is destined to fail. As difficult as it may be for you to imagine right now you would be better off moving on. With 7 billion people walking the planet the odds are in your favor there is another girl who would love to have a man like you in her life even if she could only see him every other week. Best of luck!

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   stricktlydatingposted 13 years ago

   It sounds like you're doing all the right things, but she does not feel suited to the lifestyle you lead, unfortunately.  There's not much you can do if she really doesn't accept you travelling with your job.  If you've been calling her regularly when you're away to let her know you're thinking of her, and doing all you can to help her feel secure in the relationship, that's all you can do, and you don't want to be with someone who makes you feel bad because of your job. Maybe you're just not suited.

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   dcamp74posted 13 years ago

   She is 30 and I am 37. She just sends conflicting messages. Last night it was happy text saying she misses me and wants to get together for a date. Someone suggested that she might be manic (bi-polar). She has constant mood swings. Sometimes she is the most communicative person I know and then other days she shuts down and then shuts me out. She can get angry and emotional and then be the sweetest person you have ever met. I don't know what to do but I am reaching a point where my own happiness is being effected. I do not believe in giving up and I want to fight for this. I am just confused how someone can be all in at one point and then change their mind about the relationship in an instant.

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