When a woman says, "it's too soon" how long should a man wait?

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  1. profile image0
    BRIAN SLATERposted 11 years ago

    When a woman says, "it's too soon" how long should a man wait?

  2. smzclark profile image59
    smzclarkposted 11 years ago

    Until she says (or expresses in another way), 'I'm ready now'. Pushing it will only make her respect you less and feel less respected by you and probably cause her to hold back more.

  3. TripleAMom profile image77
    TripleAMomposted 11 years ago

    As long as she asks you to.  If you really care about her, it shouldn't matter and you should be willing to wait.

  4. onegoodwoman profile image69
    onegoodwomanposted 11 years ago

    Ask yourself, this one, single question.....................

    What is this woman, worth to you?

    STOP with the dating guidelines, the relationship assements............

    Just ask your own single self..........how much respect, or courtesy, am I willing to show this woman........................HOW much does she mean to my tomorrows?

    Sex  comes from far too many angles............what is companionship, loyalty, trust, or tomorrow worth?

    What YOU decide, reveals a great deal to a warm and willing woman.

    PLEASE...........look at yourself, and truly, assess...........what kind of man, am I?

    This......is the greatest gift that  you  can offer a woman.

  5. Mmargie1966 profile image84
    Mmargie1966posted 11 years ago

    As long as she needs you to, if you really care for her.  It simple.  If she isn't worth the wait, then don't waste your time or hers.

    This is one of the drawbacks of being a male.  I'm sorry, Brian.

  6. Deborah Brooks profile image60
    Deborah Brooksposted 11 years ago

    Brian, how do you feel about her? Is she worth the wait? you never want to force yourself.. she will lose all respect for you  and her self and you will lose respect for her to. so as long as it takes. Court her and listen to what she has to say and see where it leads you. Is she worth the wait?

  7. relawshe profile image59
    relawsheposted 11 years ago

    You need to wait until she says she's ready!  Talk about it, express your opinions and desires with each other, and then respect her wishes, and she will respect you for it, and she'll think you're the best listener and one of the most noble guys she's ever encountered!

  8. edhan profile image39
    edhanposted 11 years ago

    Be persistent will have great result.

    I have a friend who was madly in love with a girl but rejected many times. But after a few years of continuing chasing after her, they got married.

    Stay focus and be persistent as eventually you will be rewarded. Remember to be truthful.

  9. dashingscorpio profile image82
    dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

    I honestly think it's important to get to the bottom of things. By "too soon" does she feel she doesn't know you well enough? Is there some arbitrary "90 day" rule she is waitng for on her calendar? A certain number of dates? A marriage proposal?...etc
    Naturally you don't want to push someone but at the same time you don't want to be strung along or lied to when the person has no intention of being intimate with you. In all honesty when someone thinks ("You are all that!") they will break their own rules rather than risk losing you to someon else. She may ask you to wait and then turn around and jump in the bad with Brad Pitt the same night she meets him. You can't manufacture (chemistry). It's either there or it's not.
    In the end it really doesn't matter. You shouldn't want to be intimate with someone who does not want to be intimate with you. In order for her to be "the one" she would have to see you as being "the one". Keep in mind it has to mutual. Just has she is entitled to have her own dating rules, you are just as entitled to have your own. Wait only because you think she is worth it. A lot of times when women thinks she is "making a man wait" he is actually having sex with other women until she comes around. (Some guys) think the longer they wait the better it had better be. If it doesn't live up to the anticipation/expectations they won't stick around.
    Sometimes it's a case where the woman has been with a few "bad boys" in the past and now she is looking for "Mr. Right". From her point of view if she gives you the same treatment she gave the "bad boy" you might remove her from your pedestal. I wrote about this awhile back in more detail in my hub "She Asked: Why are there so few good men" Timing is everything!
    http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … omansheart


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