If your significant other had an emotional affair but swore it was over would yo

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   Lisas-thoughts101posted 12 years ago

   If your significant other had an emotional affair but swore it was over would you stay?
   
   If  you believed the "affair" was over  would you mind if he/she and the person kept up an email friendship? Or would you expect him/her to end that relationship all together?

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   Alastar Packerposted 12 years ago

   Assume you mean an all the way affair that was very emotional. If the significant other gave the partner a second chance then any further contact, including e-mails, would definitely be verboten. The very fact that they would want to maintain contact with the person at all is not a good sign for a successful reconciliation. So maybe the best answer is no way or go away.

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   If that happened and I was able to forgive, I would expect all contact to be severed between the two.  Forgiving that kind of betrayal is huge and severing those past relations would be the least he could do.
   
   Frankly, if my spouse thought so little of me as to cheat, I would end the relationship.  Trust is so important in a marriage and I don't know if I could get it back once that relationship was revealed.

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   Lisas-thoughts101posted 12 years ago

   This was an emotional affair over the internet.  Does that make a difference?

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   I'm not sure if I would stay in the relationship. There are a lot of factors that would need to be addressed. What led my significant other to become emotionally involved with someone else in the first place? Why did the affair end? (Did I catch them? Did the othe party end it? Was it too many obstacles to overcome that caused them to give up their dream of being together?)
   At the end of the day cheating is about (lying and betrayal). If someone tells you that you are the only one they love or want and you find out they are telling another person the same thing or acting as though you don't exist when you are not around then it would difficult to trust them again. Unless deep down you felt (your behavior) pushed them away I can't see why anyone would want to stay with someone who proved to be untrustworthy.
   My relationship philosophy is fairly simple. When you love someone give it your all and your very best. If someone cheats on you after you have done that it makes no sense to give them a "second chance". If your best wasn't enough for them to value and respect the relationship then they were not right for you. There is nothing better than your best!

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   Nicole1963posted 12 years ago

   When contemplating this question from the understanding that it was an emotional affair over the internet my response would have to be the following.
   
   There must be a complete severing of contact between my partner and the other party, no if ands or buts. The idea that my partner desired any continued contact with the other individual tells me that in truth the affair has not ended but has just transformed its outward appearance into something they could insist is plutonic.
   
   No contact No excuses plain and simple.

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