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Why would a man not show much affection after a year of dating and talking about

  1. brakel2 profile image78
    brakel2posted 6 years ago

    Why would a man not show much affection after a year of dating and talking about marriage?

  2. msorensson profile image71
    msorenssonposted 6 years ago

    A year of dating..there are two views..one is that you never know the person you are with even after living with him or her for a long time..or you know their hearts instantly...

    Affection..you mean outward display..it does not mean they suddenly lose interest...it probably means they are comfortable...

    I really do not know how to answer this question in the sense that I have been alone for a very long time..so I am only writing possible answers..

  3. mackyi profile image65
    mackyiposted 6 years ago

    He might not be ready or have no intention of committing. If he was asked about how he felt about marriage, a "family"(depends on if he still at this stage of his life), and so on, and he blatantly replied in a negative manner, then you know that he has no intention of committing. However, if he is at least willing to give it some thoughts or feels he needs more time, then he shouldn't be pressured. Many men will pull away when the question of marriage pops up. As far as affection is concerned, some men and women alike are just not affectionate.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    This type of "Bait & Switch" in personality is very common. In fact so much so a large percentage of people consider it to be "normal" to go from hot to cold the longer a relationship lasts. It's not unusal to hear someone say, "He or She is not the same person I fell in love with."
    During the "infatuation phase" of most relationships both people behave "romantically". Their goal is to make sure their mate is happy. It usually takes about 18 months to 2 years to see what a person's "authentic self" is like. Unfortunately for a lot of people end up getting engaged or married before they realize who they are actually signing up to spend their life with.  Be grateful to discover anything that causes you to raise your eyebrows (before) exchanging vows!

  5. duffsmom profile image59
    duffsmomposted 6 years ago

    It may well be his personality.  Many man are not affectionate or they are quiet and don't talk much.  If the man has talked about marriage, but still isn't affectionate, I would want to know if that was his personality - because that would be a hard marriage (for me anyway) without much affection.

  6. jirel profile image69
    jirelposted 6 years ago

    It's because now he knows that the girl is already his woman.He does not have to impress her like before as she already loves him.He believes that it's not necessary.This happens everytime.There are only few cases when guys are completely passionate till the end.This does not mean that he doesn't love her, but he simply thinks it's not necessary.And i he doesn't show interest while talking about marriage means, the girl can leave him now immediately unless he has other problems.