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Can he stop loving me?

  1. whispers of faith profile image61
    whispers of faithposted 8 years ago

    he says he loves me? i wanna believe him but i cant help but think that he has told that to every girl. yes hes been with me before and never told me until now. but if he really loves me is it possible for him to stop loving me.

    1. Carmen Borthwick profile image77
      Carmen Borthwickposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Its always possible for love to end, do you love him and is his love worth pursuing?

      1. whispers of faith profile image61
        whispers of faithposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        of course i do and of course it is.

        1. rebekahELLE profile image86
          rebekahELLEposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          you are still young and love will come and go. best you can do is love who you are and enjoy the journey.

          sometimes I think we want the feeling of love so much more than the person. that's why relationships fall because the feeling is gone.

    2. spease profile image51
      speaseposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      It's also possible he doesn't really love you.  Everyone's definition of love is different.

    3. anjalichugh profile image75
      anjalichughposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Nothing in this world remains static...not even the feelings. smile

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      Poppa Bluesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Only he knows what's in his heart, but if it's true he will make you feel it! Of course nothing is permanent or guaranteed, but take the love that is given and return it in kind for as long as it lasts! Relish it, and embrace it for love is good even if it's only for a little while!

    5. Lady_E profile image73
      Lady_Eposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Yes he can. Anything can change in a blink of an eye.

      .... but be positive and try to make the relationship work, so he has no reason to smile

    6. sooner than later profile image54
      sooner than laterposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I usually depends on the girl. don't go crazy some day.

    7. dejajolie profile image54
      dejajolieposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Love without action is just a four-letter-word. ACTION is what makes it real, and of course this can end too... There's Loving someone and Being IN Love with someone....

    8. Anath profile image76
      Anathposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, he CAN love you and YES he can stop loving you.  It happens all the time we fall in and out of love all the time.  Monogamy, eternal love... they are just an ilussion. 

      I would say, believe what makes you happy and enjoy it while it lasts!

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      cosetteposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Unfortunately people fall in and out of love all the time. Just embrace what you have now and be happy in the moment. Who knows - Maybe yours will be one of those forever love stories.

    10. Stevennix2001 profile image91
      Stevennix2001posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      well anything is possible.  its really hard for me to say since i don't know you or the man personally.

      however, if we're speaking in general terms, then the answer is yes.  as easy as it is to fall in love, it's just easy to fall out of it as well.  that's not to say break ups are easy at all, as that's always hard.  however, people fall out of love all the time.  it happens to all of us.  even if we realize it or not.  it sounds to me that you've already might be, since your starting to doubt what your bf says to you.

      plus, its been my experience that most relationships generally don't work out if both partners don't trust each other.  although, i could be wrong since i don't know either of you.  however, thats just my opinion.  anyway, i hope that helps.

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      Allie<3'sBjposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Either he'll always love u, or he never did, thts how i see it. I hope i helped(:

    12. Black Lilly profile image60
      Black Lillyposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Just make sure one day you do not get into situation where you'll have to pray he STOPPED loving you.

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      Jawa Lunkposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      The problem with love is not many people know what love is...

      We say we "love" pizza, or the movies, or even "love" a good joke, then turn around and say "I love you" to someone we deeply care about.

      Are they equal to the pizza and movie?  or the good joke?

      We need to redefine what love actually means in this broken society.

      There is something that is said about love at almost every wedding service, and it comes from the Bible, 1 Corinthians 13...

      Here we see that love is described as ACTIONS, not feelings or emotions.

      If someone loves in the correct manner, their ACTIONS will show you real love, and from that you will develop feelings and emotions.

      Not the other way around, as the world teaches.

      How many times have feelings or emotions driven one to say they love?

      True love can not be born from feelings or emotions, but feelings and emotions will ALWAYS give birth to real love.

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        Justine76posted 8 years agoin reply to this

        there are different kinds of love too.

    14. Jonathan Janco profile image68
      Jonathan Jancoposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Do you love him back? Do you love yourself? Try tackling those questions, first. It's always worked for me.

  2. Misha profile image76
    Mishaposted 8 years ago

    Sure he can. smile

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    B.C. BOUTIQUEposted 8 years ago

    Truthfully, yes..he can stop loving you..I dont know the story but it happens to many people every day...love comes and sometimes goes....it always seems to get repaced tooo..and most of the time too fast, rebound style

  4. zadrobi profile image57
    zadrobiposted 8 years ago

    Well, there's divorce and heartbreak just awaitn' those who need convincing that love isn't endless.

    1. Cagsil profile image61
      Cagsilposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Just because divorce exists doesn't mean love is gone.

      Some lose trust, which is just as important as love itself.

      1. wyanjen profile image81
        wyanjenposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        and some just never could figure out what went wrong.
        I decided finally to stop trying to understand him, and why.

        What is amazing is how quickly I stopped loving him: after 14 years of sincere love, I managed to stop in about 30 seconds. It was stunning to me how quickly that switch turned itself off.

        Then I packed my bags lol
        Oddly, I still trust him completely. I didn't even hire a lawyer, we split everything in half without any conflict. Weird?

        Yes, he can stop loving you and you can stop loving him too.

        1. Cagsil profile image61
          Cagsilposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          I'm sorry to hear that....I hope you don't stop looking.

  5. Cagsil profile image61
    Cagsilposted 8 years ago

    Love is not to put into word, but into specialize actions which shows loves attitude.

    You and your partner can and will fall out of love at any given time, but for men it happens more often than women.

    You say, he never said the first time you were together and this time he says it......why?

    How much trust you have in what he says? Only your inner-consciousness can tell you what's true.

    Trust in yourself and your ability to see through lies, before you completely trust anyone in a relationship, especially in the affairs of the heart.

    Listen to yourself....otherwise, you'll end up kicking yourself.

  6. sannyasinman profile image60
    sannyasinmanposted 8 years ago

    As we all know, romantic love is notoriously fickle and has does not have an indefinite shelf life. But if you feel it, go for it. If you don't you'll regret it.

    1. wyanjen profile image81
      wyanjenposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      May I add, regret is worse than heartache. In my humble experience.
      This is good advice.

      1. Cagsil profile image61
        Cagsilposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        never regret anything....even better advice. lol

        just live life to it's fullest and worry about nothing....stress free is the only way to go.

  7. pioneer_writer5 profile image56
    pioneer_writer5posted 8 years ago

    From personal experience, I can tell you that for some people love does fade. I think that romantic love is just the beginning two people have to be committed to work at keeping the love between them alive. If you have doubts now, then perhaps it really is not love but infatuation. Infatuation passes over time. Real love between a man and a woman binds them in a special relationship that lasts until both are old and gray.

    1. Cagsil profile image61
      Cagsilposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      soulmates work that way, but not all love.

  8. Cagsil profile image61
    Cagsilposted 8 years ago

    love will always remain trial and error. It is the heartache and how well you deal with it that lets you move on.

  9. prettydarkhorse profile image64
    prettydarkhorseposted 8 years ago

    it is possible he loves many women with different degrees lol

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      Poppa Bluesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Sure! Why not? I think we can love many, many people at once and to varying degrees, though that could effect the degree of love that's returned!

      1. prettydarkhorse profile image64
        prettydarkhorseposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        yes, but for me i will love only one and give him all...one at a time...but if you love many with different degree and they dont have a clue that they are the only one, your lucky..

        1. profile image0
          Poppa Bluesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          Yes and that is the most intense!

          1. prettydarkhorse profile image64
            prettydarkhorseposted 8 years agoin reply to this

            and the best too..

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    Revive@OwnRiskposted 8 years ago

    There are no guarantees no matter what you do and no matter how many contracts and prenuptuals are in place. What is more important is now, and how your future looks in this moment. If you have reason to doubt his truthfulness, then find out the facts before you dive in. Don't be fooled. His past patterns are a very accurate indicator of where he's headed.

  11. Mrvoodoo profile image60
    Mrvoodooposted 8 years ago

    Can he stop loving me?

    Yes = http://hubpages.com/forum/topic/24909

    No = http://philturner99.files.wordpress.com/2009/05/old-couple7.jpg

    And you wont know which your future is, until the game is all played out.

    Best wishes and good luck. big_smile

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    Kathryn LJposted 8 years ago

    Sure he may well love you NOW.  Its whether he will love you later.  Loads of people mean every word when they take their marriage vows.  Trouble is, people change their minds.  Of course, he may love you even more with each day that comes.  Thats why we risk it, isn't it?

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    daddylonelyposted 8 years ago


    1. Jimmy Boyd profile image75
      Jimmy Boydposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Tell her. You won't know what could happen unless you find out.

  14. Wonder_Woman profile image53
    Wonder_Womanposted 8 years ago

    Yes all is true but that phrase better  to love then not love at all still holds true.

    I have experianced a lot og heartache bc of love, but i have never felt so alive when love is in my presence, so its a risk worth taking

  15. Jery profile image58
    Jeryposted 8 years ago

    Sure he can, but so can you, and then you can love again. I think humans are only meant to be together for about 10 years or so then it's time to find someone new. Or at least that seems to be the case with me! lol

  16. Jimmy Boyd profile image75
    Jimmy Boydposted 8 years ago

    It's possible, but that "if he really loves me" part is really important. Did you say something to coax it out of him? Some guys will say it easily if they think you really want to hear it.

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    reeltaulkposted 8 years ago

    Hey Wispers......the reality of this life is that nothing is written in stone.  I am not telling you to doubt his words, neither to keep your hopes high, but what I can say is if he does Love you and his actions confirm that love he proclaims, then its for you to enjoy as well as respect his love.  So if circumstance or life brings a sudden holt to "The experience"  there are no complaints as well as you will have memories of "Your True Love Experience" for the remainder of your life! 

    Vonda G. Nelson

  18. megs78 profile image60
    megs78posted 8 years ago

    you know instinctively if someone loves you.  There are always signs.  and you will also know when someone stops loving you because even though we try hard to ignore it, or play it off as something else, there are always signs!  you have to trust your instincts.

  19. maudine_05 profile image58
    maudine_05posted 8 years ago

    as the saying goes.."its better to love and be jilted, than to never love at all" why would you focus your energy worrying if you can rather enjoy the moment of being with him.