divorce..is there anything more like hell?
I have been going through a insanely ugly divorce. This man that once claimed to have been willing to die for me will stop at anything to take everything away from me and hurt me. It was an abusive relationship and he did everything and yet i still tried. You know how it goes young and dumb. I thought maybe if we tried to be amicable maybe it would go okay. But this man tried to lie and file a false report to put me in jail to get custody of our girls however it only back fired on him for his p.i ended up to be our witness and thought he was crazy. He would lie and smirk in my face. And even before we had decided to divorce he had been cheating on me while i was pregnant with a suppossed family friend of his family. HE had been staying the night with her. And to top things off he would tell me that he wanted one on one time with our oldest daughter (since i was pregnant)only to be lying so he could play house with this girl. I would question them but they would both lie. But of course the truth comes out. Finally her husband whom she was seperated with bursted thier bubble to message me and tell me the truth and everything that i had already known and suspected. Then possesion is 9/10 of the law and trying to to keep from paying child support he tried to keep my oldest daughter for me. And only agreed for me to go out with my own child and daughter after i told him how i wanted to come back to him and how i loved him (i had to lie to see my girl and get her back). once the divorce started he lied about everything and continuely behaved as if he was invinceable and could do anything he wanted to me since he paid so much for a lawyer that was supposed to be the best. Its insane to think how we both loved each other whole heartedly to things to be so bitter and ugly between us. I never thought that the man i once loved would stop and nothing to try to hurt me and keep from supporting his own kids. after all i can honestly say divorce is hell on earth.
Anything you need or want to know so that you can feel better?
94- kmackey32
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I'm right behind you, I am beginning to think men just suck!!Is all about control and what they want and when they don't get it, its hell
82- philip carey 61
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I do not know you, but I am so sorry for all this pain. May you overcome and move on, where there is more light and a brighter future.
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every problem is an opportunity in disguise=)
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oh I hope can have more time to talk to you personally, slowly by slowly, you need to move on, dont look back, just remember all the things he had done to you and thats reason enough to gather yourself, and your children needs a mother who will show them what is right, divorce is ugly yes, but you just need to take it one day at a time. Moving on and having a good life is a good revenge, although we dont want revenge...
dont let other man do that again to you! love yourself more and bless you...- 82
- philip carey 61
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I remember a friend telling me, when I was going through something, "They can kill you, but they can't eat you." I love that, for some odd reason.
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I hate divorces.. my best friend just had to go through one. Tough times..
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kmackey32 wrote:
I'm right behind you, I am beginning to think men just suck!!Is all about control and what they want and when they don't get it, its hell
Women are surely different in this regard
I'm sorry to hear that.
I just read Donald Trump's book "Think Big & Kick Ass" and he has a whole chapter on pre-nups.
He says it doesn't matter how rich or poor you are, you need one especially with the divorce rate at 60%. It saves both sides a headache and saves the kids.
I hope it all works out but definitely get a pre-nup in the future!
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My divorce was fairly painless and amicable. Always a bit of emotional upheaval of course but no malice thankfully.
r2moo2 wrote:
Anything you need or want to know so that you can feel better?
No i have been working on moving forward and church really has helped. I had once heard a sermon if the storm is bad enough to make you cry just think how much you will smile when the sun comes out. And now the sun had finally came out. But you know it does help to write things out to get it off your chest. My own personal therapy
topgunjager wrote:
every problem is an opportunity in disguise=)
very true!! some things are blessings in disquise god only closes some doors to open others
prettydarkhorse wrote:
oh I hope can have more time to talk to you personally, slowly by slowly, you need to move on, dont look back, just remember all the things he had done to you and thats reason enough to gather yourself, and your children needs a mother who will show them what is right, divorce is ugly yes, but you just need to take it one day at a time. Moving on and having a good life is a good revenge, although we dont want revenge...
dont let other man do that again to you! love yourself more and bless you...you are so right and in so many ways. And just like eveyone says your not the first to go through this and definetly won't be the last. So i take this as a lesson learned and light to fire up my motivation to finish school a bit quicker
philip carey 61 wrote:
I remember a friend telling me, when I was going through something, "They can kill you, but they can't eat you." I love that, for some odd reason.
lol i love that!!
hudsonj1994 wrote:
I hate divorces.. my best friend just had to go through one. Tough times..
ya divorce are definetly a hard lesson to learn from
TimTurner wrote:
I'm sorry to hear that.
I just read Donald Trump's book "Think Big & Kick Ass" and he has a whole chapter on pre-nups.
He says it doesn't matter how rich or poor you are, you need one especially with the divorce rate at 60%. It saves both sides a headache and saves the kids.
I hope it all works out but definitely get a pre-nup in the future!good advice i didn't know you can include kids in a pre-nup
Jewels wrote:
My divorce was fairly painless and amicable. Always a bit of emotional upheaval of course but no malice thankfully.
you are so lucky.I feel like i married the devil himself
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Silence2,
It will pass. I am really sorry for your ordeal.
My divorce was perfectly OK from the standpoint of the divorce settlement (no real disagreements, no kids involved), but some of the emotional stuff was bad. My husband had been married before, and he assumed that he could act just as he had in his prior divorce. He took his sweet time moving out, and that was the most difficult thing I had to deal with (I will spare you the details).Silence2 wrote:
I have been going through a insanely ugly divorce. This man that once claimed to have been willing to die for me will stop at anything to take everything away from me and hurt me. It was an abusive relationship and he did everything and yet i still tried. You know how it goes young and dumb. I thought maybe if we tried to be amicable maybe it would go okay. But this man tried to lie and file a false report to put me in jail to get custody of our girls however it only back fired on him for his p.i ended up to be our witness and thought he was crazy. He would lie and smirk in my face. And even before we had decided to divorce he had been cheating on me while i was pregnant with a suppossed family friend of his family. HE had been staying the night with her. And to top things off he would tell me that he wanted one on one time with our oldest daughter (since i was pregnant)only to be lying so he could play house with this girl. I would question them but they would both lie. But of course the truth comes out. Finally her husband whom she was seperated with bursted thier bubble to message me and tell me the truth and everything that i had already known and suspected. Then possesion is 9/10 of the law and trying to to keep from paying child support he tried to keep my oldest daughter for me. And only agreed for me to go out with my own child and daughter after i told him how i wanted to come back to him and how i loved him (i had to lie to see my girl and get her back). once the divorce started he lied about everything and continuely behaved as if he was invinceable and could do anything he wanted to me since he paid so much for a lawyer that was supposed to be the best. Its insane to think how we both loved each other whole heartedly to things to be so bitter and ugly between us. I never thought that the man i once loved would stop and nothing to try to hurt me and keep from supporting his own kids. after all i can honestly say divorce is hell on earth.
he's still trying to manipulate and control you. I've been through this twice. one statement that sends their heads whirling: "You really need to get over me and move on because i have."
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