Can a mother become jealous of her daughters life?

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   sangreposted 12 years ago

   Can a mother become jealous of her daughters life?

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   Old Empresarioposted 12 years ago

   I'm sure it's possible. But I think all mothers between the ages of 14 and 40 are insane.

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   lburmasterposted 12 years ago

   Yes. I believe that is why my friend in high school was beat up by her mother every week.

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   Lisa HWposted 12 years ago

   Some mothers could, but I think well adjusted, normal, mothers would never be jealous of their daughter's life.  They'd be happy if their daughter has a nice life or nice things in her life.  I think what often happens, though, is if a daughter and mother have differences of opinion, and if the mother doesn't act completely thrilled with her daughter's choices, daughter's often jump to the conclusion that jealousy is the problem because younger people often automatically assume that being older is "awful" and that older people (especially women, maybe) "must be" miserable".  What younger people don't realize is that a lot of mothers are pretty thrilled with their own lives, or are at least reasonably happy with who/what they are as people.  A lot of mothers of grown daughters are glad they've got their own  life built and would never trade places with their daughters "in a million years".
   
   So, considering that, sometimes I think if mothers act like they're "having an issue" with something their grown daughter is doing, it's often just a matter of the mother either disapproving or else being worried that her daughter is making/has made a mistake that will cause serious problems in her life.  Daughter's don't take well to feeling as if their mother isn't thrilled with all their choices; so, again, they may jump to the conclusion that jealousy is the problem when it just isn't.  BUT, there will always be the occasional mother who may be jealous of her daughter (and any number of other people, for that matter); so saying "no" would be incorrect as well.

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   GoldenLotus69posted 12 years ago

   I don't think so. Nothing makes a mother happier than seeing her daughter have the best of everything. Unless the mother is psychologically ill, she will always wish for the good of her daughter. There's nothing like a mother's love. She would do anything she could just to see her daughter in the best situation possible.

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   VeronicaInspiresposted 11 years ago

   Yes. And a father of his son.
   
   And sometimes despite how proud they say they are over their son or daughter's accomplishments, they're a little resentful that it's not them.
   
   They may be unhappy or disappointed with themselves and over the experiences they didn't have, and so the jealousy can manifest itself in the parent mimicking their son or daughter's behaviors, attitudes, clothes, or looks, criticizing or making belittling comments, or by overlooking the good and emphasizing the bad.

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   cat on a soapboxposted 11 years ago

   Yes, I think it's possible. I see it  more as wishing we could relive the past, so it's more nostalgia than jealousy. Witnessing happy moments of prom, new love, weddings, etc. make us SO happy for our daughters. At the same time they take us back to times long since past that tug at us emotionally.  A well-adjusted mom is able to put it into a proper perspective and build the bonds between mother-daughter by sharing thoughts and memories.

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